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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My younger daughter looks very different from me and my husband as well as our older daughter. When I am out with her (and not my husband and older daughter), I keep getting asked if my husband is Italian/Spanish/Indian because of how my daughter looks. It’s making me want to take a 23andme dna test to see what my ancestry is. Has anyone else been inspired to take an ancestory test based on a similar situation and is 23andme the best test? TIA.

Do people really do that? That just sounds rude. Or is this normal?

Yes! I am almost all Irish, but family roots are "dark Irish". I tan SO easily and did even more so when I was a kid. If I was out with one parent people would regularly ask if my other parent was Mexican or Puerto Rican. My own DH asked if I was Mexican or Greek when we first met in the summertime. Now we have two DDs- one brown eyes, brown hair that is already super tan just from the last couple weeks of sun and her sister is a red head with fair skin and bright green eyes. Genetics are weird.

Genetics are very, very strange. I have a pale, blond, blue eyed father who has british isles/scandinavian ancestry. My moms family hails from the south part of Germany and are definitely on the more olive complected side and tan super super easily. My sister and I look so similar people mistake us for each other. I used to get a good laugh after I had graduated high school and she still had her high school job at a coffee shop. I popped in a couple of time when she wasn't there and all the staff was sooo confused. Our hair color is exactly the same, eye color is the same, similar builds and facial features....BUT we do have one difference - skin tone! I am super pale and my sister is olive complected and gets super tan in the summer. Not me, sigh....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My younger daughter looks very different from me and my husband as well as our older daughter. When I am out with her (and not my husband and older daughter), I keep getting asked if my husband is Italian/Spanish/Indian because of how my daughter looks. It’s making me want to take a 23andme dna test to see what my ancestry is. Has anyone else been inspired to take an ancestory test based on a similar situation and is 23andme the best test? TIA.

Do people really do that? That just sounds rude. Or is this normal?

Yes! I am almost all Irish, but family roots are "dark Irish". I tan SO easily and did even more so when I was a kid. If I was out with one parent people would regularly ask if my other parent was Mexican or Puerto Rican. My own DH asked if I was Mexican or Greek when we first met in the summertime. Now we have two DDs- one brown eyes, brown hair that is already super tan just from the last couple weeks of sun and her sister is a red head with fair skin and bright green eyes. Genetics are weird.

Genetics are weird. I don’t have either of my parents’ eyes. Lo and behold—mine are my dad’s sister’s eyes. I didn’t think that could happen.

Anonymous wrote:My younger daughter looks very different from me and my husband as well as our older daughter. When I am out with her (and not my husband and older daughter), I keep getting asked if my husband is Italian/Spanish/Indian because of how my daughter looks. It’s making me want to take a 23andme dna test to see what my ancestry is. Has anyone else been inspired to take an ancestory test based on a similar situation and is 23andme the best test? TIA.

I was very surprised at what found.

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Anonymous wrote:You and your husband can both get tested if you’re curious. I’m not planning to do DNA tests for my children until they’re old enough to have an opinion about it.

this. The DNA companies make money by selling your DNA. Don't do it for your kids, seems wrong.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:You should test her, not you.

I wonder if there was a baby mix up at the hospital?

I listen to many DNA podcasts. Sadly there are many stories about this, and it's what I thought of when I first read the post.

OP, you didn't go through IVF did you?

My sister is a short, curly hair brunette in a family of tall blondes. When we were kids we teased her that she was adopted. She recently did one of those dna tests because she was convinced our dad wasn't her father. She is the spitting image of my father's great aunt. Genetics are weird. My other sister did the test, too, and they are full siblings.

Anonymous wrote:You should test her, not you.

I wonder if there was a baby mix up at the hospital?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My younger daughter looks very different from me and my husband as well as our older daughter. When I am out with her (and not my husband and older daughter), I keep getting asked if my husband is Italian/Spanish/Indian because of how my daughter looks. It’s making me want to take a 23andme dna test to see what my ancestry is. Has anyone else been inspired to take an ancestory test based on a similar situation and is 23andme the best test? TIA.

Do people really do that? That just sounds rude. Or is this normal?

Why in the world would that be rude? People regularly ask what people’s background is because, ya know, we live in a global, multi cultural society and we all are curious about each other & find it fascinating how our blended backgrounds emerge in both expected & unexpected ways.

As someone who looks "exotic" (blech, men love to say this to me) despite being 100% white and having a blonde blue eyed mother and blonde blue eyed kids, please don't comment on someone's ethnicity unless they have brought it up. In fact, here's a very important life lesson that you may be learning better late than never: don't, under any circumstances, comment on someone's appearance for any reason. There's really no need! If you're that starved for conversation topics, talk about the weather.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My younger daughter looks very different from me and my husband as well as our older daughter. When I am out with her (and not my husband and older daughter), I keep getting asked if my husband is Italian/Spanish/Indian because of how my daughter looks. It’s making me want to take a 23andme dna test to see what my ancestry is. Has anyone else been inspired to take an ancestory test based on a similar situation and is 23andme the best test? TIA.

Do people really do that? That just sounds rude. Or is this normal?

Why in the world would that be rude? People regularly ask what people’s background is because, ya know, we live in a global, multi cultural society and we all are curious about each other & find it fascinating how our blended backgrounds emerge in both expected & unexpected ways.

Anonymous wrote:My younger daughter looks very different from me and my husband as well as our older daughter. When I am out with her (and not my husband and older daughter), I keep getting asked if my husband is Italian/Spanish/Indian because of how my daughter looks. It’s making me want to take a 23andme dna test to see what my ancestry is. Has anyone else been inspired to take an ancestory test based on a similar situation and is 23andme the best test? TIA.

Do people really do that? That just sounds rude. Or is this normal?

Anonymous wrote:You and your husband can both get tested if you’re curious. I’m not planning to do DNA tests for my children until they’re old enough to have an opinion about it.

this. The DNA companies make money by selling your DNA. Don't do it for your kids, seems wrong.

You and your husband can both get tested if you’re curious. I’m not planning to do DNA tests for my children until they’re old enough to have an opinion about it.

You should test her, not you.

My younger daughter looks very different from me and my husband as well as our older daughter. When I am out with her (and not my husband and older daughter), I keep getting asked if my husband is Italian/Spanish/Indian because of how my daughter looks. It’s making me want to take a 23andme dna test to see what my ancestry is. Has anyone else been inspired to take an ancestory test based on a similar situation and is 23andme the best test? TIA.