Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:About a week.

Any tips?

Um, we have a lot of structure in place. So the bedtime routine in the new house was exactly the same as in the old house, we did things in the same order, bedroom furniture was in the same layout, books were in the same order, we sang the same songs at bedtime, etc. But we also don't encourage anxiety and coddle it. Sure, sometimes new things are scary but we tackle scary things and conquer them and move on.

Some children and adults take longer to adapt to change. That is just part of their temperament and how God created them. Has he been able to connect with friends and adults that he was close to in the other home? Have you tried to incorporate some of the same routines you had in your other home? What about where he sleeps? Does he have the same furniture, bedding, etc that he had in his previous room? I believe making friends will be important for him and help him transition. So encourage him in that direction. Every child is different and there is no timetable for adjusting. He will need extra attention and encouragement from you, during this transition phase. Praying he settles in quickly.

We moved internationally at that age and within our neighborhood, I'd say it took just a few weeks- it helped a LOT that there were a lot of American boys around his age already that he quickly made friends with. School took a little longer, primarily because about half of it was in a new language, but I'd say roughly a month to adjust to that and then he started interacting more with the local kids after around 6 months once he picked up the language. At that point, we signed him up for local activities outside of school to further integrate and it's gone well.

I think that realistically, it took about 5-6 months for us -- what helped was getting DS into a new routine pretty quickly (school, etc.), as well as a couple of activities outside school, to create opportunities for new fun/new friends. So, that might include activities like soccer, baseball, swimming....whatever you think your child might like. Is your child in a daycare/preschool program? (Sounds like it, so have you asked the teachers how your child is once you leave?). Play dates helped as well. Your child might also need some additional attention and support from you. Any other major changes in the child's life? Good luck, OP!

Anonymous wrote:About a week.

Any tips?

About a week.

We moved to a new neighborhood several months ago. 5 year old is usually good about separating if he has info and is told about it in advance. He was fine right after we moved, but lately he has been crying at separation in every situation. If you experienced similar, how long did it take for your kid to adjust?