Yes, she scared about going to school

I am shocked at the stuff kids post. Clearly, parents are not checking these accounts.

Anonymous wrote:Probably around 15 or so. Depends on the kid and their maturity level and group of friends. We've had a LOT of talks about what's okay and not okay and how to deal with having made a mistake.

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Probably around 15 or so. Depends on the kid and their maturity level and group of friends. We've had a LOT of talks about what's okay and not okay and how to deal with having made a mistake.

Try your best. As much as makes you feel better and you can enforce without causing a major riff with your kid. But also realize there are *always* going to be things you don't see. They are three steps ahead of us.

Anonymous wrote:Every now and then I try to figure out DS’s Discord but always end up needing DS’s assistance to actually view anything. So I’m not sure me checking is useful. Old mom and I can’t keep up.

What about TikTok or SnapChat ?

Anonymous wrote:
First I would have to buy them phones, and then have to include them in my posts or ask for them to include me in their posts... to friends? The former will happen next year, but the latter never. I'm not the friend, I'm the parent. I reserve the right to examine the phone at any time. I certainly don't want to be sent teen threads that clutter up my own phone.

You are not being sent anything. That's not how this works.

First I would have to buy them phones, and then have to include them in my posts or ask for them to include me in their posts... to friends? The former will happen next year, but the latter never. I'm not the friend, I'm the parent. I reserve the right to examine the phone at any time. I certainly don't want to be sent teen threads that clutter up my own phone.

Every now and then I try to figure out DS’s Discord but always end up needing DS’s assistance to actually view anything. So I’m not sure me checking is useful. Old mom and I can’t keep up.

If she is under 18, lives in your house , and you pay the phone bill you look anytime you want. If she gets snippy the phone gets locked up for a week

If she excludes you, she loses social media. Simple. But, you also don't need to comment about everything.

You should re establish that you, as parents, have the right to and will review her social media (and whatever else), and that if there is hesitation or refusal, the phone will be taken away. That if there is defensiveness or anger shown about it, that the phone will be taken away. That if posts are hidden from you, that the phone will be taken away. You can reevaluate your involvement next year, but 15 is still young enough that you should be involved.

Lots of good parenting is going to make kids defensive! I would almost always talk about it but I would try to approach it with curiosity rather than right away sharing your thoughts or advice.

when do you stop checking your kids social media account? i just realize my 15 year old kid exclude me from a lot of her posts. nothing too bad, but certain posts i could offer some parental guidance. will you talk to her and ask why? or how would you approach this kind of convo? she generally gets defensive/not happy when we talk about her social media usage.