Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't go to a destination wedding for a co-worker.

It isn’t a coworker. At least if it was a coworker, I would know the coworker and there would most likely be other coworkers of my husband I know from over the years.

The hotel will cost $1000+ per night for a standard room and we would need 2 rooms since our family can’t fit in a standard room. So this wedding will cost us $10K+ with airfare.

I would rather go on our own family vacation than go to a wedding where we don’t know anyone.

I can’t believe you’re even considering going.

I don’t want to go. Dh wants to go. He wants me to think of it as a vacation but I would rather go somewhere else alone or with our family friends.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't go to a destination wedding for a co-worker.

It isn’t a coworker. At least if it was a coworker, I would know the coworker and there would most likely be other coworkers of my husband I know from over the years.

The hotel will cost $1000+ per night for a standard room and we would need 2 rooms since our family can’t fit in a standard room. So this wedding will cost us $10K+ with airfare.

I would rather go on our own family vacation than go to a wedding where we don’t know anyone.

Then why are you asking on DCUM? If you had posted this info in your OP, we'd all have told you not to bother.

I wouldn’t go. It doesn’t seem like it makes any sense to go.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't go to a destination wedding for a co-worker.

It isn’t a coworker. At least if it was a coworker, I would know the coworker and there would most likely be other coworkers of my husband I know from over the years.

The hotel will cost $1000+ per night for a standard room and we would need 2 rooms since our family can’t fit in a standard room. So this wedding will cost us $10K+ with airfare.

I would rather go on our own family vacation than go to a wedding where we don’t know anyone.

I can’t believe you’re even considering going.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't go to a destination wedding for a co-worker.

It isn’t a coworker. At least if it was a coworker, I would know the coworker and there would most likely be other coworkers of my husband I know from over the years.

The hotel will cost $1000+ per night for a standard room and we would need 2 rooms since our family can’t fit in a standard room. So this wedding will cost us $10K+ with airfare.

I would rather go on our own family vacation than go to a wedding where we don’t know anyone.

I love a good wedding- so I would go

I wouldn't go to a destination wedding for a co-worker.

Anonymous wrote:Are the kids invited?

Yes, the kids are invited. I don’t know if the kids would have fun at the wedding. I’m not even sure I would even have a good time at the wedding. They are well behaved.

We have not been to a wedding for a while. I don’t think I have ever been to a wedding where I don’t know anyone. I won’t know a single person there, not even the groom or bride.

I’m leaning towards not going.

If the children are not invited, and the destination is not a location where I'd like to spend my money and time, my husband would go by himself, or not at all. If they are invited, and/or the location is one I'd like to visit, I would arrange additional time there to enjoy the destination.

In terms of knowing people there, we usually aren't too familiar with other people at weddings, because we're international and don't see family very often, let alone extended family. A co-worker's wedding wouldn't be that different from an extended family's wedding in that regard... which is sad.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are the kids invited?

I think she means treat it as a vacation. I probably wouldn’t old because it’s probably a small wedding and they don’t really expect him to come. Since it’s a destination, they probably have a lot of events planned. Would you two just go to wedding but not the other events and then just hang at the pool with other guests?

This. I think it would depend on how many events they have planned.

Anonymous wrote:Are the kids invited?

I think she means treat it as a vacation. I probably wouldn’t old because it’s probably a small wedding and they don’t really expect him to come. Since it’s a destination, they probably have a lot of events planned. Would you two just go to wedding but not the other events and then just hang at the pool with other guests?

Are the kids invited?

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't go to the wedding with the kids, but if you're able to work out something such that you're able to attend the wedding and the kids stay behind in the room with a sitter/nanny, I think that would be optimal.

This. Attending the wedding could just be one event you do in a family vacation. If the bride and groom are ok with you bringing kids and if your kids are well behaved and will enjoy the wedding, sure, bring them to the wedding too. In that case, increase the gift amount also.

I wouldn't go to the wedding with the kids, but if you're able to work out something such that you're able to attend the wedding and the kids stay behind in the room with a sitter/nanny, I think that would be optimal.

Dh is invited to a wedding at a very nice resort. Dh knows the couple through work. I have never met the couple.

Would you attend and take the kids?

If it was local, Dh and I would go but it is a destination wedding. I think of it kind of as a family vacation but I wonder if it is better just to go to a family vacation and not the wedding.