Anonymous wrote:Our two little kids are advanced in part due to our nanny. She was a teacher and has taught them so much about mindfulness, academics, manners, art, music, and advanced vocabulary. They’re bright, cute little kids.

But sometimes I think she’s too competitive in regard to my kids abilities. Not to the point of pushing my kids but in things she says about other peoples kids. Things like the other kids aren’t as bright or imaginative as my kids. Or as kind and mature.

She’s been our only nanny for five years so I don’t know if this kind of pride and competition is normal.

how lovely! You're lucky!

Did you hear her say it or did another family mention it to you? In either case, you can tell her that you love that she is so proud of the kids (and of course you are too) but that maybe she shouldn’t disparage other kids when their parents are around bc so and so’s parents overheard and “we” don’t want the kids to think they are better than other kids (or something to that effect). Be sure to add how much you appreciate all she has done for your kids, etc but that you both need to need to be discreet when discussing your kids’ accomplishments around other families (so it is a joint problem not just her problem).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our two little kids are advanced in part due to our nanny. She was a teacher and has taught them so much about mindfulness, academics, manners, art, music, and advanced vocabulary. They’re bright, cute little kids.

But sometimes I think she’s too competitive in regard to my kids abilities. Not to the point of pushing my kids but in things she says about other peoples kids. Things like the other kids aren’t as bright or imaginative as my kids. Or as kind and mature.

She’s been our only nanny for five years so I don’t know if this kind of pride and competition is normal.

And you have a problem with this? She sounds wonderful.

What? No. That isn’t “wonderful.” It’s immature.

Naw, teachers do it all the time with certain students. (I’m a teacher)

I’d love for our nanny to love and be that proud of my kid.

Normal and human nature. She loves your kids and is proud of them. Nannies can say things about their charge that parents can’t.

Yes I think that’s normal. Nannies do compare their charges and their employers. How could they not?

Definitely fire her immediately. And email me her name and contact info just so I can make sure never to hire her if I see her name pop up on a nanny hire website. Thanks x

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Anonymous wrote:Our two little kids are advanced in part due to our nanny. She was a teacher and has taught them so much about mindfulness, academics, manners, art, music, and advanced vocabulary. They’re bright, cute little kids.

But sometimes I think she’s too competitive in regard to my kids abilities. Not to the point of pushing my kids but in things she says about other peoples kids. Things like the other kids aren’t as bright or imaginative as my kids. Or as kind and mature.

She’s been our only nanny for five years so I don’t know if this kind of pride and competition is normal.

And you have a problem with this? She sounds wonderful.

What? No. That isn’t “wonderful.” It’s immature.

You need to kick her to da curb

Anonymous wrote:Our two little kids are advanced in part due to our nanny. She was a teacher and has taught them so much about mindfulness, academics, manners, art, music, and advanced vocabulary. They’re bright, cute little kids.

But sometimes I think she’s too competitive in regard to my kids abilities. Not to the point of pushing my kids but in things she says about other peoples kids. Things like the other kids aren’t as bright or imaginative as my kids. Or as kind and mature.

She’s been our only nanny for five years so I don’t know if this kind of pride and competition is normal.

You're just jealous because you couldn't teach them these things.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you expect her to say otherwise in front of you?

OP here. No, she does it with other parents and nannies, too.

This is different than about what she thinks. It represents your family as arrogant to others. Especially if she says such things within earshot of your kids, I'd address it.

Anonymous wrote:Do you expect her to say otherwise in front of you?

OP here. No, she does it with other parents and nannies, too.

Do you expect her to say otherwise in front of you?

I’m a nanny and your nanny is wrong because my charges are the best, smartest and most beautiful!!

Yes, OP, all good Nannie’s feel this way. We truly love our charges.

Anonymous wrote:Our two little kids are advanced in part due to our nanny. She was a teacher and has taught them so much about mindfulness, academics, manners, art, music, and advanced vocabulary. They’re bright, cute little kids.

But sometimes I think she’s too competitive in regard to my kids abilities. Not to the point of pushing my kids but in things she says about other peoples kids. Things like the other kids aren’t as bright or imaginative as my kids. Or as kind and mature.

She’s been our only nanny for five years so I don’t know if this kind of pride and competition is normal.

And you have a problem with this? She sounds wonderful.

Our two little kids are advanced in part due to our nanny. She was a teacher and has taught them so much about mindfulness, academics, manners, art, music, and advanced vocabulary. They’re bright, cute little kids.

But sometimes I think she’s too competitive in regard to my kids abilities. Not to the point of pushing my kids but in things she says about other peoples kids. Things like the other kids aren’t as bright or imaginative as my kids. Or as kind and mature.

She’s been our only nanny for five years so I don’t know if this kind of pride and competition is normal.