I was 40 and single. At 41, I realized that I didn't want to be childless. I pursued IVF on my own with donor sperm. It was the best decision I could have made. I would suggest perhaps figuring this part out of your life with a therapist so you are really listening to your heart.

I'm sorry that you wasted your 30s. I tell my young female friends to not do that.

For an emotionally health person, yes, it is normal. You are content and happy on your own, open to meeting someone who is a good fit for your life and priorities, but not desperately chasing down a partner because you know you can be happy either way.

You're 40, imagine being 50, or even 60, as a childless woman with no close relationships. It's okay tho, you will have plenty of independence.

After a going-nowhere relationship and a few years to rediscover yourself, it seems very normal that you feel better.

After breaking up with my ex on bad terms and never speaking again I felt vulnerable and still dependent on him. I felt like I needed someone close for advice and support. I felt very scared by myself but 2 years later without him and I feel more risky. I want to get out and do things and try new things without relying on sound advice. I also deleted dating apps and feel okay being single, 40, and childless but I do sometimes get a longing maybe my biological nature tapping in. I feel like I need a family sometimes but I also like being independent. Is this normal?