Anonymous wrote:Do all of you not have husbands? Do all of your kids' friends not have dads? Why are you acting like this is all "mom work"?

I give everyone my husbands phone number as I hate texting.

I hate texting. Prefer email.

Do all of you not have husbands? Do all of your kids' friends not have dads? Why are you acting like this is all "mom work"?

I find it easier to invite a group. So if my kids plays with 3 different friends at school, I'll text/email all of them with a plan already set. "Would anyone like to meet at X playground at 2pm on Saturday?"

Hopefully at least 1 of them can come. The key is I don't tell my kid until after I have a confirmation someone is coming.

Groups are always a little bit easier.

Anonymous wrote:It was much harder on my social anxiety when arrangements were only made in person or phone calls. My kids were born in the early 90's so texting didn't start until closer to high school. I was relieved to text, rather than call. I still remember overexplaining to a pushy parent why plans didn't work for us one time. People thought it was rude to screen calls back then too haha!

Omg totally! And I had a friend who used to do that thing where you dial back someone who called without leaving a message. It was like *72 or something on the phone.

Much better to text than having to pick up the phone and call people! So glad it’s not the 80s or 90s. As a kid in the 80s I had serious social anxiety about calling a friend myself to set up a sleepover (as a preteen).

It was much harder on my social anxiety when arrangements were only made in person or phone calls. My kids were born in the early 90's so texting didn't start until closer to high school. I was relieved to text, rather than call. I still remember overexplaining to a pushy parent why plans didn't work for us one time. People thought it was rude to screen calls back then too haha!

Agree, but my kids ask for them regularly, so I do it anyway.

Ask your partner/spouse to do it. Mine handles that stuff. And yes I'm a woman with a husband.

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Anonymous wrote:I have pretty severe social anxiety, so it is pure torture. I second guess every word and am convinced everyone thinks I am a total weirdo. And they wouldn't be wrong.

This. Too many back and forths with blushing smiley emojis. Too many negotiations about where, when, etc.. I'd rather hand this task off to someone else.

And even worse once it was like the mom was just glued to her phone so she was sending out these paragraph length texts every other minute.

Anonymous wrote:I have pretty severe social anxiety, so it is pure torture. I second guess every word and am convinced everyone thinks I am a total weirdo. And they wouldn't be wrong.

This. Too many back and forths with blushing smiley emojis. Too many negotiations about where, when, etc.. I'd rather hand this task off to someone else.

Even before cell phones, parents had to communicate about play dates, even if it was just responding when a kid called out, "Hey mom, Susan asked if I can come over this afternoon, can I?"

Like, what do you want? Kids randomly ringing your doorbell?

And why are you saying "mom"? I have the contact info for all the dads in our close circle as well as the dads, and my husband has all parent info, too. I've gotten texts from a dad as recently as last week about an activity, and forwarded the text to my husband (who was working from home that day) and the husbands coordinated the pick up and drop off for that evening.

I have pretty severe social anxiety, so it is pure torture. I second guess every word and am convinced everyone thinks I am a total weirdo. And they wouldn't be wrong.

Simple, don't do playdates. How would you like to coordinate?

Does any other mom hate the back and forth that you have to do through text to coordinate and meet the mom of a child that your child is friends with at school ? So they can meet and have a playdate? I loathe it, completely.