Yeah, once in 3rd grade I sent an anonymous letter to the boy down the street calling him a booger. I cut all the letters out of newspaper clippings.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. A neighbor left a note in our mailbox complaining that sometimes she/he got stuck behind our disabled child's bus in front of our house in the afternoon (child had to be detached from a harness and buckled in to a wheelchair-it never took more than a few minutes), and could we move the bus stop to the corner? For ten years, I have wondered which neighbor is the a-hole.

Man, what a jerk.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. To the parents of my kid's bully. The kid bullies many kids in the school. I've talked to the parents already, other parent have talked to them. The parents haven't done anything about it. The school hasn't done anything about it. I think everyone is a little too "nice" about it and don't convey how awful that kid is because everyone is afraid that the bully will come down harder on their kids for tattling.

So why is it that you think an anonymous letter/note will accomplish anything different?

The thing you do with bullies is punch them in the nose. Teach your kid this. Next time the bully goes after your kid, your kid needs to punch the bully in the nose or, or the nuts or, better yet, kick out his knee to the side -- he'll go down and stay down and his humiliation will stop the bullying for the future.

All this talking -- anonymous or no -- is pointless and ineffective.

Honestly, this is true. There was a little boy bulling me in elementary school. He’d pick with me and constantly make the punch motion with his fists. Once I slammed a door (he was exiting) in his face, he stopped.

I am female, so I’m not certain if that makes a big difference.

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Yes. A neighbor left a note in our mailbox complaining that sometimes she/he got stuck behind our disabled child's bus in front of our house in the afternoon (child had to be detached from a harness and buckled in to a wheelchair-it never took more than a few minutes), and could we move the bus stop to the corner? For ten years, I have wondered which neighbor is the a-hole.

Anonymous wrote:What do you think this anonymous letter is going to accomplish? What information are you going to convey that you haven't already said in person?

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What will this accomplish besides pissing off the parents and making them wonder who the a$$hole was that sent that garbage. Put on your big girl (or boy) pants and be an adult. Do you teach your kids to face the music or hide when things get tough? Set a good example because they are watching you.

If you think it could help, do it. Your first priority is to protect the kids being hurt. You've tried other options and they didn't work. Having said that, send the letter AND continue to needle the school administration to take action.

I did an anonymous letter to the bullies parents and it caused a decrease in the bullying. It was a situation with oblivious parents who were riding the bully kid to overachieve in sports and academics etc. The kid was bullying his way to achievement. He would hurt kids in sports games and in the locker room, tease and hurt weaker, smart kids. His parents promoted this bully as a star, but they were raising a monster and a bully - they even promoted his charity work - while he was bullying and intimidating other kids. I think the parents were clueless of what the kid was doing. The letter helped. DO IT.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. To the parents of my kid's bully. The kid bullies many kids in the school. I've talked to the parents already, other parent have talked to them. The parents haven't done anything about it. The school hasn't done anything about it. I think everyone is a little too "nice" about it and don't convey how awful that kid is because everyone is afraid that the bully will come down harder on their kids for tattling.

So why is it that you think an anonymous letter/note will accomplish anything different?

The thing you do with bullies is punch them in the nose. Teach your kid this. Next time the bully goes after your kid, your kid needs to punch the bully in the nose or, or the nuts or, better yet, kick out his knee to the side -- he'll go down and stay down and his humiliation will stop the bullying for the future.

All this talking -- anonymous or no -- is pointless and ineffective.

It would be better to record the bully actually bullying. So many kids have phones now. Then send video.

Don't waste your energy. Report each bullying incident between your child and their child to the school. Encourage other parents of bullied students to do the same. Be a thorn in the side of the school until they take action.

What do you think this anonymous letter is going to accomplish? What information are you going to convey that you haven't already said in person?

Op here. To the parents of my kid's bully. The kid bullies many kids in the school. I've talked to the parents already, other parent have talked to them. The parents haven't done anything about it. The school hasn't done anything about it. I think everyone is a little too "nice" about it and don't convey how awful that kid is because everyone is afraid that the bully will come down harder on their kids for tattling.

What’s the point of the letter?

Don't do it. Be an adult, own your words and actions.

I'm considering sending one. Have never done this before. Made me curious to hear if others have, or is this some trope I read in mystery novels.