Anonymous
04/17/2022 17:23
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
Median income in the US is 35k, not 50k.
Someone making 50k lives very comfortable in many parts of the country. But since it’s only 35k, that feels like poverty level because quality of life in the US is only good for the top 20% of us.
Someone making 50k lives very comfortable in many parts of the country. But since it’s only 35k, that feels like poverty level because quality of life in the US is only good for the top 20% of us.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 17:21
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
Anonymous wrote:Usually, women who make five figures. Typically lots of teacher/teacher, non-profit/non-profit couples. They either find happiness in communities of like minded peers (south arlington of the early 2000's comes to mind), get funded by their parents, or get divorced because having kids at that income is too stressful.
It's easy to "not care" about money Before you have kids. It's a much trickier proposition after.
That really depends on the COL in your area.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 17:21
Subject: Re:Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
Anonymous wrote:DH makes around 90k. I make around 70k (used to make over 100k with bonuses but I am PT since having a kid). We do great. We have very similar priorities -- both prioritize family time and quality of life over income, but also hard workers who like to save think it's important to have multiple sources of income. We have a small home which is what we both prefer (easier to maintain, less to clean) and our kid will go to public school. I think we have a really nice life.
Also, my DH's work, while not high paying, is very meaningful and important. I am proud to be married to someone who is making a difference in the world, and who has been willing to forgo higher pay to do it. I also think it contributes to him having a generally pretty good personal outlook on life, and a generous person in many way. That has only become more true as we've become parents, and I am so glad to be co-parenting with someone who has such high character and strong values. Learning about his work and hearing him talk about it was part of what made me fall in love with him in the first place.
(None of this is a knock on anyone else's marriage -- we have friends who make much more money than we do and they are good people too. I'm just answering the OP's question, which kind of was a knock on my marriage. The idea that making less than 100k is some huge liability in a partner is such a weirdly myopic view of love and marriage.)
So, you only have one kid and that kid isn't even school age yet? Report back in 15 years poster.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 17:18
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
Usually, women who make five figures. Typically lots of teacher/teacher, non-profit/non-profit couples. They either find happiness in communities of like minded peers (south arlington of the early 2000's comes to mind), get funded by their parents, or get divorced because having kids at that income is too stressful.
It's easy to "not care" about money Before you have kids. It's a much trickier proposition after.
It's easy to "not care" about money Before you have kids. It's a much trickier proposition after.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 17:14
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:A lot of women are only making 5 figures as well. Most people don’t make 6 figures.
Exactly I’m not sure why OP thinks DC is the entire world. Very dense.
Uh, plenty of people in DC make 5 figures. Please stop talking about DC like it's just your sliver of high-income families. There's actually way more of us.
That’s…exactly what PP was saying.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 17:05
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:A lot of women are only making 5 figures as well. Most people don’t make 6 figures.
Exactly I’m not sure why OP thinks DC is the entire world. Very dense.
Uh, plenty of people in DC make 5 figures. Please stop talking about DC like it's just your sliver of high-income families. There's actually way more of us.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 17:04
Subject: Re:Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
DH makes around 90k. I make around 70k (used to make over 100k with bonuses but I am PT since having a kid). We do great. We have very similar priorities -- both prioritize family time and quality of life over income, but also hard workers who like to save think it's important to have multiple sources of income. We have a small home which is what we both prefer (easier to maintain, less to clean) and our kid will go to public school. I think we have a really nice life.
Also, my DH's work, while not high paying, is very meaningful and important. I am proud to be married to someone who is making a difference in the world, and who has been willing to forgo higher pay to do it. I also think it contributes to him having a generally pretty good personal outlook on life, and a generous person in many way. That has only become more true as we've become parents, and I am so glad to be co-parenting with someone who has such high character and strong values. Learning about his work and hearing him talk about it was part of what made me fall in love with him in the first place.
(None of this is a knock on anyone else's marriage -- we have friends who make much more money than we do and they are good people too. I'm just answering the OP's question, which kind of was a knock on my marriage. The idea that making less than 100k is some huge liability in a partner is such a weirdly myopic view of love and marriage.)
Also, my DH's work, while not high paying, is very meaningful and important. I am proud to be married to someone who is making a difference in the world, and who has been willing to forgo higher pay to do it. I also think it contributes to him having a generally pretty good personal outlook on life, and a generous person in many way. That has only become more true as we've become parents, and I am so glad to be co-parenting with someone who has such high character and strong values. Learning about his work and hearing him talk about it was part of what made me fall in love with him in the first place.
(None of this is a knock on anyone else's marriage -- we have friends who make much more money than we do and they are good people too. I'm just answering the OP's question, which kind of was a knock on my marriage. The idea that making less than 100k is some huge liability in a partner is such a weirdly myopic view of love and marriage.)
Anonymous
04/17/2022 16:59
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
Anonymous wrote:A lot of women are only making 5 figures as well. Most people don’t make 6 figures.
Exactly I’m not sure why OP thinks DC is the entire world. Very dense.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 16:59
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
Me.
You sound like an asshole.
You sound like an asshole.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 16:56
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
I married a bartender. I'm a former model with a bachelors degree who now works in PR.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 16:55
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
A lot of women are only making 5 figures as well. Most people don’t make 6 figures.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 16:54
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
Were you trying to be this obvious with your trolling attempt
Anonymous
04/17/2022 16:53
Subject: Re:Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
It’s fine not to care about money.
I am not like that but others are. Every one is different. You shouldn’t judge.
I am not like that but others are. Every one is different. You shouldn’t judge.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 16:48
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
...well...mine's an absolute gem, and we do fine.
Anonymous
04/17/2022 16:46
Subject: Who do men who make 5 figures marry?
Median income in the US is only 50k or so. What types of women tend to settle for these men? Obviously not the DCUM crowd.