Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think it is the kind of thing best left unsaid/unexplored. It’s a lose-lose proposition to go down that path.

This. Stop looking for drama where there is no need for it.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t all parents love their kids more deeply than their spouse? I honestly was shocked when he said this (it came up randomly) and a little upset. Does anything feel this way? Or do mothers just love differently from fathers?

My DH is the same way. I do think he would do anything to protect them, of course.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think it is the kind of thing best left unsaid/unexplored. It’s a lose-lose proposition to go down that path.

+1.

I love my kids more than my husband right now when they're little and constantly changing and need me a lot, but I can't imagine why I'd ever tell him or them that.

This. I have little kids too and at this stage there is so much they need physically and emotionally. But they will become their own people and we will send them out into the world. They will always have pieces of my heart but not all ofit.

Why does it have to be a contest?

I felt and know that my parents love each other more than me. They adored me and took care of me etc. But as an adult its clear they are very much into each other and togetherness. Kept their marriage strong. I didn't realize this until pretty late and I'm not bothered by it.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think it is the kind of thing best left unsaid/unexplored. It’s a lose-lose proposition to go down that path.

+1.

I love my kids more than my husband right now when they're little and constantly changing and need me a lot, but I can't imagine why I'd ever tell him or them that.

DH and I both love our kids more than each other. We both admitted it to each other once.

But the truth is I don’t know if it’s more or just a different type of love.

My father loved my mother more than us kids. It was very obvious at the end of his life. It is what it is.

It's not something I think about, but I love dh more than my kids. DH is my person and is the one I chose for life. He loves me the same way. We love our 3 kids a lot and are great parents to each, but love each other more. Our kids have asked us which kid we love the most and we say nope, we love mom (or dad) the most. We're kidding, but it's true. Luckily I'd never have to choose between any of them, so it's a moot point. I am very close to my parents and I love my parents the same way I love my kids. It's a familial love vs passionate love.

I definitely love my husband more than my kids. But I love my dog more than my husband.

Men love individuals they have a deep physical and tangible connection to. Your love is stoked by your physical attractiveness to DH.

The DC is different. Ask DH if he would step in front of danger for DC. That's a different kind of love but still present.

Gosh I can't say that I even think about this. I love all my DH and my kids and it's different but I wouldn't know how to even quantify to say who I loved more or less.

I don’t think it’s bad. He’s known you way longer.

Honestly, I think it is the kind of thing best left unsaid/unexplored. It’s a lose-lose proposition to go down that path.

Don’t all parents love their kids more deeply than their spouse? I honestly was shocked when he said this (it came up randomly) and a little upset. Does anything feel this way? Or do mothers just love differently from fathers?