I just explained to my sophomore that anywhere not within a day’s drive is too far. I went 8 hours from home. That felt far enough that my family couldn’t just drop in on me, but easy enough for move in/out.

Honestly, she is likely stuck with state school because we are DCUM “poor” and can’t pay $200k+ for her degree. she’s not a good enough student for scholarships, either.

Anonymous wrote:Anywhere they want to go. Europe included.

+1

I encouraged DC to apply to UK schools and have encouraged study abroad for an entire year.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our job is to prepare our kids to leave no matter how much that hurts that’s our job.

Now back to reality.

Amtrak tickets, plane tickets, storage units, time off from work to move the kid in and out--all of that adds up for some folks.

yes, for some and not for others

Anonymous wrote:Our job is to prepare our kids to leave no matter how much that hurts that’s our job.

Now back to reality.

Amtrak tickets, plane tickets, storage units, time off from work to move the kid in and out--all of that adds up for some folks.

Our job is to prepare our kids to leave no matter how much that hurts that’s our job.

Anonymous wrote:For those who have a certain distance within which you will permit your kid to attend college….. what is your thinking? If your child applies to school across the country would you see that as fleeing the homestead, abandonment?… would you even permit the application? Or did you let your kid apply freely anywhere ? If so what is your thinking as well? I feel like there are two kinds of parents on this thread. The ones who will let their kids go absolutely anywhere. And those who have communicated a radius.

We are lower middle class and are currently not allowing the kid to apply to schools that would require a flight. Kid already knows that if the school they choose is 3+ hours away, a lot of their transportation to and from will consist of riding Greyhound buses.

kids must go more than 250 miles away

We are full pay and I would let my kids apply anywhere. My oldest applied to some CA schools because she is interested in entertainment and I thought that was a good reason to be in LA, for example. She didn't get into UCLA or USC so she is closer. My younger is not sure what he wants to do when he grows up so I don't think there is any reason for him to apply to schools that far away.

I would also say I'd be more inclined for some schools that are far but near airports with direct flights, versus schools you need to fly, then drive far distances to get, simply because that seems like a barrier to coming home and there are reasons to want to come home sometimes, even for the most well adjusted kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Shocked you did not mention cost of travel as a deciding factor.

I mean, a lot of us are full pay…..so….

Even full pay do consider this, we did.

We didn’t set any geographic radius, dd ended up about 3.5 hours away. I will say that the parent Facebook group is constantly addressing the stress/logistics of long distance travel, storage over breaks etc and it makes me grateful we don’t have to deal with all that. But would I have forbid a school she had to take a plan to if it was really where she wanted to go? Probably not.

150 mile radius

Anonymous wrote:Shocked you did not mention cost of travel as a deciding factor.

I mean, a lot of us are full pay…..so….

Shocked you did not mention cost of travel as a deciding factor.

Anywhere they want to go. Europe included.

For those who have a certain distance within which you will permit your kid to attend college….. what is your thinking? If your child applies to school across the country would you see that as fleeing the homestead, abandonment?… would you even permit the application? Or did you let your kid apply freely anywhere ? If so what is your thinking as well? I feel like there are two kinds of parents on this thread. The ones who will let their kids go absolutely anywhere. And those who have communicated a radius.