Anonymous wrote:I think it’s normal but make sure you keep it together when you’re in person. Sometimes I think women fall into a trap where they think it’s okay to ogle or gossip about a hot coach but it really isn’t. I’ve been guilty, but I’m working on it.

It may be common but no it is NOT normal.

Gross!

Similar reasons why men/husbands crush on the hot nannies. Nurturing roll with the soft feminine touch…without the usual “baggage” from their wives.

I think it’s normal but make sure you keep it together when you’re in person. Sometimes I think women fall into a trap where they think it’s okay to ogle or gossip about a hot coach but it really isn’t. I’ve been guilty, but I’m working on it.

Inspirational talker too

They care
Passionate about it something
Hopefully good with kids
Father figure
Might be athletic and in good shape
Must communicate and teach kids skills (gasp!!)

I think it is the fact that they are “on” whenever you see them - professional, friendly, active. Not an authority thing, more of a “this person is paying full attention, not doing anything gross and is doing appropriate things.”

Ew. No thanks.

The psychology is a person having unhealthy boundaries and projecting feelings on inappropriate people.

Anonymous wrote:Someone who is good to your kid without the baggage of being someone whose off-putting day-to-day habits you've had to put up with.

This definitely makes sense, along with a little bit of the authority thing I think. Thanks! I feel embarrassed by this attraction even though no one knows. Good to hear it is fairly normal! And yes, absolutely keeping it in my head/crush only!!

Someone who is good to your kid without the baggage of being someone whose off-putting day-to-day habits you've had to put up with.

They are seen as a care taker, care taker of your kid. Nuturing.

Same for men. We fantasize about early education teachers. I think it's something primal about seeing someone sweet with little kids

Authority appeals to you.

He probably treats your kid well and is always cheerful- no emotional legacy between you. It’s normal- let it remain a crush only.

I know this is a thing, especially for women. I myself have more than once felt attracted to my son’s coaches throughout the years. Happily married, but a little fantasizing never hurt anyone.

Just curious what is going on with that? The current coach is a reasonably attractive guy, also single which is outside the norm. However, he’s probably not someone I would give a second thought to if not for being the coach (and he’s a good one, my kid really looks up to him). Why do I think about him so much?