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Anonymous wrote:When he isn’t in class, you don’t get the robocall? I’m confused about that. Your husband should be getting those if he ever skips and it’s marked in the system. I know we get them when my son is late and they mark him absent or if I don’t call in and excuse a full day absence.

OMG in Loudoun its so annoying. Even if I call my kid in sick, or sign her out early I STILL get the automated emails telling me every class block she is missing.

Which is why I posted earlier that OP’s husband isn’t even listed as a contact for the school if he isn’t getting these. He doesn’t know the kid’s schedule for next year, doesn’t know when he’s absent, isn’t listed as a contact in Phoenix/PVUE to get the calls, and OP believes the MOM doesn’t care.

OP here. Turns out DH was getting these calls but thought they were some type of spam call (number coming up he didn't recognize around the same time of day once or twice a week) and would just cancel the calls. Don't know how he didn't listen to the voicemails, however that wasn't the point of my original question. I don't really understand how me asking why the school hadn't intervened in the excessive absences led to my husband being a terrible father and that I was just blaming the poor mom and accusing her of not caring. I really just wanted to know how this wasn't a big deal to the school, as when my child was in elementary, after being out 5 days in one quarter (not consecutive, he'd had strep twice in as many months) I got a letter expressing concern over his excessive absences. Also, the fact that he was checking his schedule request for next year somehow means my husband is a bad parent? Um, I can assure you that MY ex husband does not know the classes our child requested for next year, and probably doesn't know what classes they're taking this year to be honest. I wouldn't say that makes him a bad father, because he certainly isn't. In any case, step son came clean that he'd been staying home because he's having a hard time getting up for school (apparently staying up very late most nights talking with friends and messing around on the computer). Mother DOES know and because his grades are not suffering, doesn't care.

Well why should she? The past two years have taught us that going to school is not "essential" and all the kids just get As handed to them.

I have a friend whose PWC high school kid also is missing close to 30 days of school--for the exact same reason as your step son (waking up late.) Absolutely no consequences, it's ridiculous. My friend's kid is a "good kid" who is still getting excellent grades, no discipline problems, etc. so I think school admin just doesn't want to bother.

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Anonymous wrote:When he isn’t in class, you don’t get the robocall? I’m confused about that. Your husband should be getting those if he ever skips and it’s marked in the system. I know we get them when my son is late and they mark him absent or if I don’t call in and excuse a full day absence.

OMG in Loudoun its so annoying. Even if I call my kid in sick, or sign her out early I STILL get the automated emails telling me every class block she is missing.

Which is why I posted earlier that OP’s husband isn’t even listed as a contact for the school if he isn’t getting these. He doesn’t know the kid’s schedule for next year, doesn’t know when he’s absent, isn’t listed as a contact in Phoenix/PVUE to get the calls, and OP believes the MOM doesn’t care.

OP here. Turns out DH was getting these calls but thought they were some type of spam call (number coming up he didn't recognize around the same time of day once or twice a week) and would just cancel the calls. Don't know how he didn't listen to the voicemails, however that wasn't the point of my original question. I don't really understand how me asking why the school hadn't intervened in the excessive absences led to my husband being a terrible father and that I was just blaming the poor mom and accusing her of not caring. I really just wanted to know how this wasn't a big deal to the school, as when my child was in elementary, after being out 5 days in one quarter (not consecutive, he'd had strep twice in as many months) I got a letter expressing concern over his excessive absences. Also, the fact that he was checking his schedule request for next year somehow means my husband is a bad parent? Um, I can assure you that MY ex husband does not know the classes our child requested for next year, and probably doesn't know what classes they're taking this year to be honest. I wouldn't say that makes him a bad father, because he certainly isn't. In any case, step son came clean that he'd been staying home because he's having a hard time getting up for school (apparently staying up very late most nights talking with friends and messing around on the computer). Mother DOES know and because his grades are not suffering, doesn't care.

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Anonymous wrote:When he isn’t in class, you don’t get the robocall? I’m confused about that. Your husband should be getting those if he ever skips and it’s marked in the system. I know we get them when my son is late and they mark him absent or if I don’t call in and excuse a full day absence.

OMG in Loudoun its so annoying. Even if I call my kid in sick, or sign her out early I STILL get the automated emails telling me every class block she is missing.

Which is why I posted earlier that OP’s husband isn’t even listed as a contact for the school if he isn’t getting these. He doesn’t know the kid’s schedule for next year, doesn’t know when he’s absent, isn’t listed as a contact in Phoenix/PVUE to get the calls, and OP believes the MOM doesn’t care.

Anonymous wrote:When he isn’t in class, you don’t get the robocall? I’m confused about that. Your husband should be getting those if he ever skips and it’s marked in the system. I know we get them when my son is late and they mark him absent or if I don’t call in and excuse a full day absence.

OMG in Loudoun its so annoying. Even if I call my kid in sick, or sign her out early I STILL get the automated emails telling me every class block she is missing.

When he isn’t in class, you don’t get the robocall? I’m confused about that. Your husband should be getting those if he ever skips and it’s marked in the system. I know we get them when my son is late and they mark him absent or if I don’t call in and excuse a full day absence.

Well, you have your hands full. Dad only sees him on the weekends for “visitation” and has to log in to see what his classes will be next year which is a simple conversation most parents just have with their kids. Sounds like he’s disengaged and you want to blame mom for not caring but good luck.

I do appreciate that it isn't the school's responsibility. We get weekend visitation only with him and, as I said, by all accounts he tells us about school and has made no mention of missing days. From the way the absences are recorded, it appears that his mom ISN'T calling them in because they are considered unexcused. Yes, his dad was aware a few times when his son was sick, and in looking at the calendar, those days are shown as excused. He IS a contact at the school. That's my confusion. Its difficult to parent when your child does not live with you and you do not live in the same county, where the child attends school. The mother clearly has not communicated any issue, or doesn't care. The child has not been forthcoming about this. And, furthermore, its not like my husband is constantly checking the ParentVue site because his son is almost 16 years old. I was just curious how so many absences could fly under the radar without there being any kind of intervention. At this point a conversation is going to be had and his dad WILL be monitoring his attendance.

If his mom is calling them in, those will not be flagged. Even if she isn’t, so many kids are out for CoVID related things (exposure, actual sickness, etc) that it’s impossible to track all of these absences down. I was in a meeting the other day where a kid has 62 absences and absentee people were only just getting involved for an attendance plan.

Tbh I consider it less of the school’s problem and more of an issue of parenting on your husband’s part that he is so disconnected he’s finding this out on the parent portal this late in the year. He can call and get himself added as a contact and he will get the absentee robocall and email. If he isn’t, his contact info isn’t in his son’s file which is again something he should definitely have known before now. Between talking to his son regularly and being a contact for the school, he could have known about this sooner. Don’t blame the school. Your husband is falling down as dad.

OP here. Yeah, not consecutive days. We only noticed because his dad logged in to see his requested classes for next year and saw all the attendance notes on ParentVue. There are literally red Xs on one or two days a week, going back to the beginning of the year. Just can't believe this isn't sone kind of red flag. I guess I can kind of understand the COVID "free pass"

Anonymous wrote:I kept my ES kids out of school for 3 weeks due to COVID. The first week I told the school registrar why my kids would be out. For weeks 2 and 3 I got daily calls that my kids had unexcused absences. We got a letter from APS maybe mid-Feb, after the kids went back, notifying us the school would be in touch to discuss the absences. I didn't hear further from the school and I don't expect to, but I do think it odd OP hear nothing.

Why didn’t you just say they were out due to covid? The same reason as week 1?

I don’t think OP’s situation is consecutive days.

I kept my ES kids out of school for 3 weeks due to COVID. The first week I told the school registrar why my kids would be out. For weeks 2 and 3 I got daily calls that my kids had unexcused absences. We got a letter from APS maybe mid-Feb, after the kids went back, notifying us the school would be in touch to discuss the absences. I didn't hear further from the school and I don't expect to, but I do think it odd OP hear nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a step son who's a sophomore in HS in PWCS. He has apparently missed like 25 days of school since the beginning of the year. Because of block scheduling not every class is 25 days out but, in total, that's what it appears to add up to. While some are excused, it seems like there are plenty that are not. How is this possible without any kind of intervention? Granted, he lives with his mom but his dad has not been notified by the school or anything. Doesn't that seem unusually high, even with the COVID issues this year? Seems like his grades are fine. Are kids just allowed to skip school now?

Also, no he never got COVID and was never out of school for COVID quarantine or anything. He literally just doesn't go to school some days.

Follow up on absences has pretty much stopped since COVID.

+1. Look at the covid checklist. They tell students to stay home whenever they feel anything. Schools stopped checking unless it’s something like 2+ consecutive weeks and not called in.

Anonymous wrote:I have a step son who's a sophomore in HS in PWCS. He has apparently missed like 25 days of school since the beginning of the year. Because of block scheduling not every class is 25 days out but, in total, that's what it appears to add up to. While some are excused, it seems like there are plenty that are not. How is this possible without any kind of intervention? Granted, he lives with his mom but his dad has not been notified by the school or anything. Doesn't that seem unusually high, even with the COVID issues this year? Seems like his grades are fine. Are kids just allowed to skip school now?

Also, no he never got COVID and was never out of school for COVID quarantine or anything. He literally just doesn't go to school some days.

Follow up on absences has pretty much stopped since COVID.

I have a step son who's a sophomore in HS in PWCS. He has apparently missed like 25 days of school since the beginning of the year. Because of block scheduling not every class is 25 days out but, in total, that's what it appears to add up to. While some are excused, it seems like there are plenty that are not. How is this possible without any kind of intervention? Granted, he lives with his mom but his dad has not been notified by the school or anything. Doesn't that seem unusually high, even with the COVID issues this year? Seems like his grades are fine. Are kids just allowed to skip school now?

Also, no he never got COVID and was never out of school for COVID quarantine or anything. He literally just doesn't go to school some days.