Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very close, but only say "Mom took us ..." to my siblings. Not even to my cousins.

This. I have some friends who just say "Mom" or "Dad" and it always makes me do a double-take.

Now, I can’t stand when my MIL talks to me about my mother and/or refers to my mother using her first name.

MIL (to me): How’s Doris?

Me: Great. She heading to the beach for a few days.

MIL: Please tell Doris I said hello.

Sorry this PP above and I didn’t state clearly what bothers me…maybe just the stilted way she uses my Mom’s first name? MIL rarely uses the term, “your mom” when referencing my mother to me but says my mom’sfirst name instead.

Is Doris hosting Thanksgiving? Would Doris like to join us? We saw Doris at the garden center, we saw Doris the other day

Yes, we are all in the same town.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very close to my parents. I always say my mom or my dad, even when I'm talking to DH. The only person I wouldn't say that to is my sibling, then I would just say "mom".

Same here. I only call them Mom and Dad when talking to other people who call them Mom and Dad.

This^.

+1 I even say my mom to my half siblings (same dad). I have a very good/close relationship with my parents.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very close to my parents. I always say my mom or my dad, even when I'm talking to DH. The only person I wouldn't say that to is my sibling, then I would just say "mom".

Same here. I only call them Mom and Dad when talking to other people who call them Mom and Dad.

This^.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very close, but only say "Mom took us ..." to my siblings. Not even to my cousins.

This. I have some friends who just say "Mom" or "Dad" and it always makes me do a double-take.

Now, I can’t stand when my MIL talks to me about my mother and/or refers to my mother using her first name.

MIL (to me): How’s Doris?

Me: Great. She heading to the beach for a few days.

MIL: Please tell Doris I said hello.

Anonymous wrote:Very close to my parents. I always say my mom or my dad, even when I'm talking to DH. The only person I wouldn't say that to is my sibling, then I would just say "mom".

Same here. I only call them Mom and Dad when talking to other people who call them Mom and Dad.

Anonymous wrote:my mom and my dad. very much so.

+1

If I'm recounting a funny or exciting story, and they are basically characters in the story, I might call them Mom and Dad. If I'm talking about them or something they did, I'd say my mom and dad.

So...

"My mom made great lasagna and my dad loved to fish."

But...

"So there I was, standing in the middle of the living room, dripping wet and holding a bucket of fish, and the smoke alarm is going off, and Dad's trying to wrangle the chickens, and Mom says, 'I hope you remembered to buy milk!'"

There might be cultural or regional differences. I don't think it's necessarily a reflection of closeness.

I'm very close to my parents but say "my mom" and "my dad" when speaking about them. My friends do the same.

I say my mother and my father, because that's how I translate it from the French.

Ok, I’ve noticed people I know who are extremely close with their parents say mom/dad. My father died and my mom was very abusive and I say mom.

Very close to my parents. I always say my mom or my dad, even when I'm talking to DH. The only person I wouldn't say that to is my sibling, then I would just say "mom".

Anonymous wrote:Very close, but only say "Mom took us ..." to my siblings. Not even to my cousins.

This. I have some friends who just say "Mom" or "Dad" and it always makes me do a double-take.

My... with dh and all others. Mom/dad with siblings. If I took out "my" with others I'd feel like a nostalgia film narrator (like Sandlot or the Wonder Years)

Very close, but only say "Mom took us ..." to my siblings. Not even to my cousins.

my mom and my dad. very much so.

Dad ... always took us to NYC every year.
Mom... cooked the best lasagna.

Or do you say
My mom...
My dad....

And were you close with your parents?