Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that limit food? I don’t think I am sheltered, but I don’t know anyone like this.

You must understand that the appliances have a sheen, a sheen, you see, and the vile fingerprints are disgusting. Don't even get me started on the crumbs! I have a tidy kitchen, and it closes at 7:53am. That's plenty of time to get your food in for the day. If your gross gaping maws have to be crammed full of bestial ug gross food all day, you can take a thin wedge of pear and eat it on the back steps.

Of course, the wrong side of the family waddles on down to the Burger King down the street for this "lunch" business, but we don't speak of that in polite, refined, emaciated company.

(I wish I were joking. Google "DCUM" and "Burger King Lady.")

Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that limit food? I don’t think I am sheltered, but I don’t know anyone like this.

I think its an age thing. My parents weren't like that growing up but I hear from others who visit/stay with them that they pull that kind of stuff. I had to rescue one cousin who was starving.

Who are these people that limit food? I don’t think I am sheltered, but I don’t know anyone like this.

"late night bacon"

OP, I'm so glad your children are getting the message that their parents will handle things like this so they can eat regular meals. Good for you! Good for low drama and setting new norms.

Anonymous wrote:Cooked in a pan, you say? I must have the recipe!

I’m sure it’s a complex recipe, like late night bacon.

https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2010/11/secret-ingredient-in-rachael-rays-minimalist-bacon-recipe-is-hilarity/amp

Cooked in a pan, you say? I must have the recipe!

Pp here. And yea, we only were having one meal that day because of the huge meal of hot dogs cooked in a pan MIL planned.

But thanks to dcum I had a backpack of snacks lol

Lol my mil spent all of yesterday explaining how to cook hot dogs “ well I was thinking we’d have a big dinner of hot dogs. I was thinking we could cook them in a pan. That would be so nice, I have a big pan, let me show you how I cook hot dogs so you can learn.”

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Anonymous wrote:I learned from dcum to take breaks while my MIL visits or I’m staying in my parents’ home.

I have perfected the art of going to bed early, working late, getting called into work last-minute, participating in an online mtg - all to either leave or gain some precious solo time, real or imagined.

Amazing how much listening to a podcast through earbuds resembles being in on a conference call to the outside world.

Chuckle!

I’m glad our generation is finally the one to stop food weirdness.

Anonymous wrote:I learned from dcum to take breaks while my MIL visits or I’m staying in my parents’ home.

I have perfected the art of going to bed early, working late, getting called into work last-minute, participating in an online mtg - all to either leave or gain some precious solo time, real or imagined.

Amazing how much listening to a podcast through earbuds resembles being in on a conference call to the outside world.

I learned from dcum to take breaks while my MIL visits or I’m staying in my parents’ home.

I have perfected the art of going to bed early, working late, getting called into work last-minute, participating in an online mtg - all to either leave or gain some precious solo time, real or imagined.

Awesome, OP! I agree that DCUM can be helpful in giving people perspective and the validation to make sound decisions.

Yay!

Both my parents and my ILs are weird about food, cling the kitchen, etc. They have these arbitrary rules and make unilateral decisions that often don’t work for me, DH and our young kids. Because of DCUM, I no longer leave us to their mercy, and always have a plan. My MIL just announced that she’s not serving lunch because we’re having a “big dinner” and is “serving it early” (spoiler alert: it’s a regular-sized meal to be served at 7 p.m.), so DH and I are taking out girls out to lunch. We’re ignoring her pouts, getting fed, and are getting a break from being in their small house with nothing to do.

DCUM is seriously helpful sometimes. DH no longer feels guilt, either.