Night two: he actually slept in. Peacefully. I'm in another room to keep things as manageable as possible at the moment. I am so glad he got some sleep! Poor guy is 40 years overdue.

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I’m envious, my H can’t sleep with the damn thing and he’s more sleep deprived and crankier than ever. We don’t understand all the people who say it helped them.

Try a mouth guard. They can help as well.

Agree. Snorerx has been the best one for me. Other brands are also good.

Try separate bedrooms.

Anonymous wrote:I’m envious, my H can’t sleep with the damn thing and he’s more sleep deprived and crankier than ever. We don’t understand all the people who say it helped them.

He needs to give 3 months.

Yay! I'm so happy for you, OP! My DH (diabetic and normal weight) has an excessive thickening of his throat and started snoring in his early 30s He's also a heavy sleeper and while his snoring never wakes him up, I could NOT sleep. He wouldn't use a CPAP for himself but because his snoring was causing issues in our marriage, he uses one (I still have to tell him to put his mask on every night. Otherwise, he sleeps without it). It is a total game changer.

I have age related loss of muscle tone and when I sleep my throat relaxes and I start to snore. It's quiet, has never woken my DH but wakes me up. I don't even have sleep apnea but I kept waking up so I got a CPAP. There's definitely a learning curve on how to sleep with one but once you figure it out, it's GREAT!

Please explain this. My DH snores so loudly it wakes me up every night. He now falls asleep next to me, then wakes me up a few hours later, then I wake him up, and he goes to sleep in our guest room. This happens nearly every night.

His snoring is absolutely spectacularly loud. He's not heavy. He doesn't eat after 5 p.m. He's not tired or seems sleep-deprived. In fact he sleeps very well, for 8-10 hours every night.

How would I know if he needs an evaluation? I have broken sleep because of his snoring. I can't fall right back asleep after his snoring wakes me up, but he goes right to sleep in the guest room. I'd have him sleep in the guest room, but i like falling asleep next to him.

I'd love something that would make his snoring stop, but I don't know if he'd agree to a cpap machine unless he had a medical need for it.

Anonymous wrote:How loud is the machine? The ones in hospitals are horrible and I’m not sure if I could sleep next to someone on one. Are the home ones quiet?

OP here. Much quieter than the one in the hospital (which is how he finally admitted he needed a sleep study, btw).

https://www.inspiresleep.com/

Check out Inspire Medical for an alternative to CPAP technology. They implant a tiny device that you turn on and off with a controller. It sends a tiny signal to stimulate the relevant nerves if you are not breathing right. It is indicated and covered by insurance only if you can't use a CPAP effectively. I'm a CPAP user and I've been tempted because I would love to lose the machine and mask.

How loud is the machine? The ones in hospitals are horrible and I’m not sure if I could sleep next to someone on one. Are the home ones quiet?

I’m envious, my H can’t sleep with the damn thing and he’s more sleep deprived and crankier than ever. We don’t understand all the people who say it helped them.

Try a mouth guard. They can help as well.

Anonymous wrote:I’m envious, my H can’t sleep with the damn thing and he’s more sleep deprived and crankier than ever. We don’t understand all the people who say it helped them.

What might help:

1 The right mask. I initially tried a cannula/nasal pillow type contraption. It was awful. Switched to a “comfort gel” mask and nary an issue since. Mask fit is very individual.

2. Use the heated humidifier.

3. Use the “ramp” setting, which sort of allows the airflow to sneak up on the sleeper after they’ve started to drift off.

4. An auto adjusting machine, which may obviate the need to breathe out against pressure.

5. Stay up late if possible to be good and tired.

6. Address any other sleep stealers (caffeine, chocolate, heavy meals, too much screen time, alcohol, etc.).

Hope it helps.

I’m envious, my H can’t sleep with the damn thing and he’s more sleep deprived and crankier than ever. We don’t understand all the people who say it helped them.

...but OMG I feel like I did when there was an infant in the house and I was sleep deprived all the time. *I* got no sleep last night. All the snoring and moving was missing, and it was weird. Plus he's really sore because he actually slept and apparently didn't move himself out of an awkward position. There's an adjustment period, right?