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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Join a learning community and look for housing based on interests. Some schools have “the hiking house”, “the politics house”, etc. Even the service-oriented sororities can be brutal.

This would be better for her. Greek life is not kind to the different.

Does not sound kind to anyone honestly.

It’s not. Even the socially-groomed triple legacies have miserable weeks. It’s emotionally abusive to pretty much everyone.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Join a learning community and look for housing based on interests. Some schools have “the hiking house”, “the politics house”, etc. Even the service-oriented sororities can be brutal.

This would be better for her. Greek life is not kind to the different.

Does not sound kind to anyone honestly.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD has very mild HFA and rush was an utterly soul crushing experience for her and, vicariously, for me. Think again.

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My DD just went through sorority rush and said to me "i'm not mentally stable enough for this"... and she is plenty mentally stable! There will be clubs tha are not Greek life that she can participate in.

I do not think Greek life would be a good fit for your DD. It's really hard for people who are introverts -- it's not set up for people who have limited capacity for forced social interactions.

Autism would be even harder than being an introvert in a sorority. I would definitely look at other options. I have a niece who joined a knitting club in college as well as a Pokemon club! (At W&M!) There are going to be different clubs and they will be more fluid in membership with less requirements than a sorority.

Anonymous wrote:My DD has very mild HFA and rush was an utterly soul crushing experience for her and, vicariously, for me. Think again.

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My DD has very mild HFA and rush was an utterly soul crushing experience for her and, vicariously, for me. Think again.

If this were my DD, there's no way I'd be looking at sororities as a potential place to belong. I'd be looking at what engineering schools have reasonable numbers of women and active campus communities with clubs and activities.

Anonymous wrote:Join a learning community and look for housing based on interests. Some schools have “the hiking house”, “the politics house”, etc. Even the service-oriented sororities can be brutal.

This would be better for her. Greek life is not kind to the different.

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PP...most colleges have an array of non-exclusive affinity clubs where your daughter can be part of a group (or many groups) based on her interests...this would seem to be better than sororities (it seems that rush alone would be a bad thing for her).

Rush is over-stimulating and traumatic even for those not on the spectrum. The nice older girls choose to pay a fine rather than participate and they’re not even in the position to be rejected- they’re choosing!

Join a learning community and look for housing based on interests. Some schools have “the hiking house”, “the politics house”, etc. Even the service-oriented sororities can be brutal.

Definitely a club or service group, maybe a tour guide. My DD is in a more "nerdy" sorority, a nice mix of not-your-typical sorority girls. It turns out that the nerdy girls party pretty hard too.

I agree with the PP...most colleges have an array of non-exclusive affinity clubs where your daughter can be part of a group (or many groups) based on her interests...this would seem to be better than sororities (it seems that rush alone would be a bad thing for her).

Join a club sport, or a language house, or an interest group like "Foodie Club" instead. There are hundreds of defined groups on any campus besides fraternities or sororities.

I know there are some sororities that are service-oriented.

But have you considered active clubs: like the outing club (which goes on hikes and camping) or some type of preprofessional club or environmental club or ...most schools have hundreds.

My point is that there are groups that she can join that may be less into partying and or exclusivity than sororities.

My daughter is autistic and does best socially when there's a defined group she can join. Based on that, I'm thinking that Greek life might be really appealing. But she's not at all a partier and does not like loud parties. Are there schools where the Greek scene isn't the frats I knew in college? She's interested in engineering schools.