Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he’s a smooth talker and there’s always a big disconnect between what he says and does, o really wouldn’t care nor post this’d. He’d have such a big hole to climb out most rational cheaters wouldn’t bother trying. Maybe saying some BS, yes, but demonstrating it? Hahaha. No.

He bought me a Christmas gift for the first time in years, he finds a reason to text or call almost daily, asks about my family. He's done other things too that I've mostly ignored because I didn't dare want to take any of it too seriously. I see telling an ex maybe once that you love them and leaving it at that, but he's said it quite a few times.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he’s a smooth talker and there’s always a big disconnect between what he says and does, o really wouldn’t care nor post this’d. He’d have such a big hole to climb out most rational cheaters wouldn’t bother trying. Maybe saying some BS, yes, but demonstrating it? Hahaha. No.

He bought me a Christmas gift for the first time in years, he finds a reason to text or call almost daily, asks about my family. He's done other things too that I've mostly ignored because I didn't dare want to take any of it too seriously. I see telling an ex maybe once that you love them and leaving it at that, but he's said it quite a few times.

NP, not the PP above. OP, I note that your first post said nothing about whether you welcome this on any level; then you say here, "I didn't dare want to take any of it too seriously." That sounds to me like maybe you have a tiny inkling of wondering if he is for real and if you...should respond? Not clear because you're playing it close to vest, which is understandable.

It's the "I didn't dare want" part that makes me wonder if maybe on some level you are wanting his advances to be for real. Do you?

Remember--you divorced for a reason, and cheaters have shown their true colors already. What's the saying? "When someone shows you who they really are, believe them."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he’s a smooth talker and there’s always a big disconnect between what he says and does, o really wouldn’t care nor post this’d. He’d have such a big hole to climb out most rational cheaters wouldn’t bother trying. Maybe saying some BS, yes, but demonstrating it? Hahaha. No.

He bought me a Christmas gift for the first time in years, he finds a reason to text or call almost daily, asks about my family. He's done other things too that I've mostly ignored because I didn't dare want to take any of it too seriously. I see telling an ex maybe once that you love them and leaving it at that, but he's said it quite a few times.

Anonymous wrote:If he’s a smooth talker and there’s always a big disconnect between what he says and does, o really wouldn’t care nor post this’d. He’d have such a big hole to climb out most rational cheaters wouldn’t bother trying. Maybe saying some BS, yes, but demonstrating it? Hahaha. No.