Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the issue or how this is your business?

Au pairs are not really employees, it’s host “family” in the Jeffersonian sense.

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny was 63 when we hired her three years ago and my widowed father-in-law fell in love with her. They’ve been an item for the last two years. It’s been lovely actually and I hope they get married!

What can you say, OP? Love is love. People get lonely.

This is sweet: I don’t have a problem with the original pairing OP started with, but in fact, if this relationship didn’t work out it could pose far more of a problem than an pair/teacher. In theory only, of course, it could be very awkward or even lead to nanny quitting if they had a bad breakup. It still wouldn’t be up to you who they date, but it highlights even more how ridiculous OP’s concerns are.

I don’t understand the issue or how this is your business?

Anonymous wrote:Wait, is this YOUR au pair who is dating the teacher at your kids' school? If so, I think you need to find another au pair, or say something to the school. That would make me very uncomfortable. It could make your kids' lives uncomfortable, and I wouldn't want to put my kids in the position if I could help it. If this is just a random au pair, then I don't see the problem.

Only if it is your au pair. If your kid's teacher is dating someone else's au pair (for a family/kid in your kid's class?) I sympathize that you have to figure out how to handle that with your kids but beyond that. . . at least he's not married.

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny was 63 when we hired her three years ago and my widowed father-in-law fell in love with her. They’ve been an item for the last two years. It’s been lovely actually and I hope they get married!

What can you say, OP? Love is love. People get lonely.

She probably wants him for a green card.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny was 63 when we hired her three years ago and my widowed father-in-law fell in love with her. They’ve been an item for the last two years. It’s been lovely actually and I hope they get married!

What can you say, OP? Love is love. People get lonely.

Ok that’s one of the sweetest love stories I have ever heard. Good for them!

+1. I straight up : Awwwwwww-ed 🥰 when I read this.

Anonymous wrote:Wait, is this YOUR au pair who is dating the teacher at your kids' school? If so, I think you need to find another au pair, or say something to the school. That would make me very uncomfortable. It could make your kids' lives uncomfortable, and I wouldn't want to put my kids in the position if I could help it. If this is just a random au pair, then I don't see the problem.

What would you “say to the school”? The school has no input over who an employee dates. It’s a consensual adult relationship.

Wait, is this YOUR au pair who is dating the teacher at your kids' school? If so, I think you need to find another au pair, or say something to the school. That would make me very uncomfortable. It could make your kids' lives uncomfortable, and I wouldn't want to put my kids in the position if I could help it. If this is just a random au pair, then I don't see the problem.

Anonymous wrote:No, you have no right to say anything. They are both adults and it doesn’t concern you.

When au pair pair dumps teach and teach takes it on the kid, then can I say something?

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny was 63 when we hired her three years ago and my widowed father-in-law fell in love with her. They’ve been an item for the last two years. It’s been lovely actually and I hope they get married!

What can you say, OP? Love is love. People get lonely.

Ok that’s one of the sweetest love stories I have ever heard. Good for them!

Our nanny was 63 when we hired her three years ago and my widowed father-in-law fell in love with her. They’ve been an item for the last two years. It’s been lovely actually and I hope they get married!

What can you say, OP? Love is love. People get lonely.

No, you have no right to say anything. They are both adults and it doesn’t concern you.

No dating the teacher au pair. That is not a good situation at all.

Rematch

Should I say anything about this? I know him personally as 3 of my kids have already had him as a teacher. He is a very nice man but just feels weird to me. He is also nearly 40, divorced, and she is 22.