Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 07:55     Subject: When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
We always pay for my in laws. No, they are not poor, it’s just what his family expects.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 07:39     Subject: When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
My parents often paid when we were in our 20s. My parents are retired now and on a fixed income and I treat them most of the time.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 07:38     Subject: When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
My parents pay.
With my in laws we pay often.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 07:38     Subject: Re:When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
Anonymous wrote:The parents should pay unless you are taking them out or they can’t afford it. If they can’t afford it you should split.

My mom is 93, she always pays.


Why should the parents pay? We always pay. I remember when I finally could afford to be the one to pay with my mom and I loved being able to do that for her.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 07:36     Subject: Re:When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
If we are visiting them, we pay. If they are visiting us, they pay. Both sides. We used to do the race to the credit card thing but that has evolved to the new compromise.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 07:30     Subject: Re:When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
Anonymous wrote:The parents should pay unless you are taking them out or they can’t afford it. If they can’t afford it you should split.

My mom is 93, she always pays.


Why should the parents pay as a default?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 07:28     Subject: When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
We split. They never pay.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 07:23     Subject: Re:When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
The parents should pay unless you are taking them out or they can’t afford it. If they can’t afford it you should split.

My mom is 93, she always pays.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 07:20     Subject: When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
Anonymous wrote:Whoever manages to pull their card out first to hand to waiter. It's a race.


This. Everyone tries to pay in our family. We end up switching off over time.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 07:00     Subject: When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
My dad pays, every time. He insists and I have learned to give in gracefully because it makes him happy.

They are not very tech savvy so when it comes to ordering Amazon prime or takeout I get all that for them and don't let them repay me it's a cute dance.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 06:59     Subject: Re:When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
About even. Neither set of parents has a ton of money but it’s a pride thing I think, they always want to pay.

For DH and I, we feel like it’s a small way to pay them back now that they are living on fixed incomes.

It’s often a fight.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 06:56     Subject: When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
We switch off. No rhyme or reason to it. We never split.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 06:48     Subject: When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
Whoever manages to pull their card out first to hand to waiter. It's a race.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 06:32     Subject: When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
Sometimes we pay, sometimes they pay, sometimes we split. When we were first married, they paid more often, now that we’re in our early 40s, it’s about even. Same for in laws.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2022 06:30     Subject: When you see your parents, who foots the restaurant bill?
Do you split, do they expect you to pay, or vice versa?