Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 08:46     Subject: Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
I'm friends with my ex husband. We have kids together and often go out to dinner as a family. It's not strange. It might be strange if one of us gets remarried.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 08:32     Subject: Re:Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m more compatible with my former Ex-wife of 20 years than current wife.

We had the same sense of humor and interests and still will laugh like crazy. She is also very intelligent and I enjoy conversations.



No what you're doing is affecting your current wife's attitude toward you. If my spouse was still doing that stuff with his ex I would grow to hate him. Yes he wouldn't like my personality at that point. What you are doing is self defeating behavior. Instead of putting 100% into your marriage you messed it up. You should have cut your ex out of your life after the divorce.
Also, you aren't married to her and if you were you'd once again have the same problems. Grow up Mr.


Well- she is the woman I had the affair with so if I had taken that advice I wouldn’t have left my first wife. Unfortunately I was an idiot and regret it deeply. People are right when they say that it’s limerence that makes you do stupid things and it cools off quickly once real life sets in.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 08:14     Subject: Re:Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Anonymous wrote:I’m more compatible with my former Ex-wife of 20 years than current wife.

We had the same sense of humor and interests and still will laugh like crazy. She is also very intelligent and I enjoy conversations.



No what you're doing is affecting your current wife's attitude toward you. If my spouse was still doing that stuff with his ex I would grow to hate him. Yes he wouldn't like my personality at that point. What you are doing is self defeating behavior. Instead of putting 100% into your marriage you messed it up. You should have cut your ex out of your life after the divorce.
Also, you aren't married to her and if you were you'd once again have the same problems. Grow up Mr.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 07:28     Subject: Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
^edit. I misread the intro post. Still, a couple could be great coparents and terrible spouses so they can get along as friends while raising the child without the pressures of being spouses.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 07:26     Subject: Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Anonymous wrote:This is such a weird question. Why on earth would they be friends? Even without cheating?


Tons of threads on here where people are friends with the new spouse. Unclear whether the new spouse in this thread intends to refer to the AP or not.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 07:16     Subject: Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Anonymous wrote:This is such a weird question. Why on earth would they be friends? Even without cheating?


Why not?
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 07:14     Subject: Re:Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
I’m more compatible with my former Ex-wife of 20 years than current wife.

We had the same sense of humor and interests and still will laugh like crazy. She is also very intelligent and I enjoy conversations.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 06:54     Subject: Re:Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.


She sees no contradiction in doing this after divorcing you for cheating?


I’m guessing she gets off on doing it back to the AP.

And she’s not married—so she’s not cheating, right?
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 00:21     Subject: Re:Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Anonymous wrote:Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.


She sees no contradiction in doing this after divorcing you for cheating?
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2022 00:14     Subject: Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
This is such a weird question. Why on earth would they be friends? Even without cheating?
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2022 22:50     Subject: Re:Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Anonymous wrote:Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.


That's interesting. Life's a trip.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2022 22:45     Subject: Re:Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Anonymous wrote:Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.


JFC
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2022 22:39     Subject: Re:Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Anonymous wrote:Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.


Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2022 22:29     Subject: Re:Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Remarried and sometimes still sleep with my ex-wife.

If I had my way, I would still be married to her. She is the love of my life.

Since she wouldn’t take me back, I settled.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2022 22:25     Subject: Ex-husbands who cheated during the marriage
Are you now friends with your former wife?