My MIL told me not to have any disabled or ugly children. Our first born has special needs. We don't see her. We surround our children with people who love them. If you adopt and she doesn't accept the child or plays favorites, protect your child from her.

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Anonymous wrote:So you have adopted a child? If not, what's the point of your question?
If you have adopted or are in a process of adoption, it is her loss, she is a terrible human being. Imagine saying she will not accept a child? How ugly she is inside and out.

Not yet, but we are thinking about it and asked our family members what they think( hoping for support).

Well, you asked and she told you.
I think she is a horrible human being. Don't ask other people to weigh in on such personal decisions.

I would adopt. Her loss
And next time you have a decision to make don't ask for input.

I won’t.
I just really hoped for support that’s all
I guess we are alone in this.

Is your MIL your only family and friend?

Good grandparents are important if you have shitty parents. If you have great parents, they are nice to have, but not that important. Be great parents and your children won't miss having grandparents.

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Anonymous wrote:So you have adopted a child? If not, what's the point of your question?
If you have adopted or are in a process of adoption, it is her loss, she is a terrible human being. Imagine saying she will not accept a child? How ugly she is inside and out.

Not yet, but we are thinking about it and asked our family members what they think( hoping for support).

Well, you asked and she told you.
I think she is a horrible human being. Don't ask other people to weigh in on such personal decisions.

I would adopt. Her loss And next time you have a decision to make don't ask for input.

I won’t. I just really hoped for support that’s all I guess we are alone in this.

Stop bring dramatic. Is she the only person on the entire world who could possibly give you support? No. You can get support from others. And quite frankly, if you aren’t prepared to raise a child with your spouse and you doing all the work then you aren’t ready to have a child. My parents are not in my life. One has never met my kids. They’re thriving despite that. They have lots of people in their lives who love them and support us as a family.

You don’t ask family members for opinions on this type of decision. If you adopt she will either treat the child with life and like other grandchildren she had or she won’t and you need to keep your child away from her. ( adoptive mom)

Maybe calm down and don’t overreact to her first comment. My MIL said she wasn’t going to love my third *biological* kid as much as the first two. Then baby was born and she texts me daily to stop by and let her hold him. People say stupid, hurtful, crazy nonsense. But once there’s an actual child in the picture things can change.

My sister asked the same question of her ils and our parents. He MIL, like yours, said the same thing. Yes, she is evil too.
My parents said, absolutely, the child is a child, we will love him and you don't need to ask.
My sister and BIL decided against it. By the time they were looking into it, my eggs were too old to donate.... so now they do not have joy of a child in their lives.
They have the joy of criticizing ME, for how I raise my kids. (LOL, a joke, but they sure do that...I would never let my child interrupt me when I speak... says BIL)

Anonymous wrote:My MIL openly said she doesn’t want adopted grandchild. What would you do?

Cut her off.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you have adopted a child? If not, what's the point of your question?
If you have adopted or are in a process of adoption, it is her loss, she is a terrible human being. Imagine saying she will not accept a child? How ugly she is inside and out.

Not yet, but we are thinking about it and asked our family members what they think( hoping for support).

Well, you asked and she told you.
I think she is a horrible human being. Don't ask other people to weigh in on such personal decisions.

I would adopt. Her loss
And next time you have a decision to make don't ask for input.

I won’t.
I just really hoped for support that’s all
I guess we are alone in this.

I didn't mean to sound harsh, best of luck in your journey to adoption.
Ignore input and commentary from ILs, it really will be their loss. Who doesn't love a baby?

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Anonymous wrote:So you have adopted a child? If not, what's the point of your question?
If you have adopted or are in a process of adoption, it is her loss, she is a terrible human being. Imagine saying she will not accept a child? How ugly she is inside and out.

Not yet, but we are thinking about it and asked our family members what they think( hoping for support).

Well, you asked and she told you.
I think she is a horrible human being. Don't ask other people to weigh in on such personal decisions.

I would adopt. Her loss
And next time you have a decision to make don't ask for input.

I won’t.
I just really hoped for support that’s all
I guess we are alone in this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you have adopted a child? If not, what's the point of your question?
If you have adopted or are in a process of adoption, it is her loss, she is a terrible human being. Imagine saying she will not accept a child? How ugly she is inside and out.

Not yet, but we are thinking about it and asked our family members what they think( hoping for support).

Well, you asked and she told you.
I think she is a horrible human being. Don't ask other people to weigh in on such personal decisions.

I would adopt. Her loss
And next time you have a decision to make don't ask for input.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you have adopted a child? If not, what's the point of your question?
If you have adopted or are in a process of adoption, it is her loss, she is a terrible human being. Imagine saying she will not accept a child? How ugly she is inside and out.

Not yet, but we are thinking about it and asked our family members what they think( hoping for support).

Do not ever ask people what they think. You must make your decisions, for all your know she is talking her head off and will love the kid. How can a person not love a kid? I suppose if she truly doesn't then you know that she is truly a terrible person, of the worst kind.

Anonymous wrote:So you have adopted a child? If not, what's the point of your question?
If you have adopted or are in a process of adoption, it is her loss, she is a terrible human being. Imagine saying she will not accept a child? How ugly she is inside and out.

Not yet, but we are thinking about it and asked our family members what they think( hoping for support).

So you have adopted a child? If not, what's the point of your question?
If you have adopted or are in a process of adoption, it is her loss, she is a terrible human being. Imagine saying she will not accept a child? How ugly she is inside and out.

My MIL openly said she doesn’t want adopted grandchild. What would you do?