Anonymous wrote:Plain. Dry spaghetti. How hospitable! Not passive aggressive at all.

Earth balance vegan butter is not bad. Maybe get an acorn squash to roast and green beans with vegan butter and lemon. Sautéed mushrooms with garlic to go over squash. Yes, it’s extra work - but not too much if your blanching beans anyway and will go a long way to having a more peaceful mealtime/visit.

You both sound pretty punchy btw

It's 12/23 and the shopping is done. Do you really think OP has an acorn squash, vegan butter, and mushrooms in the house?

He asked. That doesn’t mean she expects any accommodation, but it would be a nice gesture

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Anonymous wrote:“We’ll have some vegetable sides, but I’ve already done all my shopping, so feel free to get yourselves groceries and anything you want to have on hand. If you had given me advance notice, I would have prepared, but at this stage I will not be running out to the store again. If that changes your desire to come over, I understand.”

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I'm all for accommodating guests dietary needs, but not last minute for a holiday meal. It's on him to accomodate, either by making dishes to bring to picking up something prepared. Team OP.

Plain. Dry spaghetti. How hospitable! Not passive aggressive at all.

Earth balance vegan butter is not bad. Maybe get an acorn squash to roast and green beans with vegan butter and lemon. Sautéed mushrooms with garlic to go over squash. Yes, it’s extra work - but not too much if your blanching beans anyway and will go a long way to having a more peaceful mealtime/visit.

You both sound pretty punchy btw

Anonymous wrote:Make her a baked potato and some plain steamed green beans. If she wants more that’s on her.

This. I might also throw in a bowl of plain spaghetti.

Say nothing. Do not engage with your brother on this.

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Anonymous wrote:“We’ll have some vegetable sides, but I’ve already done all my shopping, so feel free to get yourselves groceries and anything you want to have on hand. If you had given me advance notice, I would have prepared, but at this stage I will not be running out to the store again. If that changes your desire to come over, I understand.”

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+2 Perfect.

Anonymous wrote:Um. You were a bit hot headed. Regroup a bit.

If it helps Indian restaurants often can do a beautiful vegan curry. Maybe have him call around and get some takeout? Offer for the main meal. She can figure out the rest later. They probably need to do a grocery run.

Thai as well. Panang tofu is delicious.

I was fried for not accommodating restricted diets for TG. Give him a run down of the menu noting anything that meets her needs and invite them to add anything they like.

Um. You were a bit hot headed. Regroup a bit.

If it helps Indian restaurants often can do a beautiful vegan curry. Maybe have him call around and get some takeout? Offer for the main meal. She can figure out the rest later. They probably need to do a grocery run.

I might go as far as not putting butter on the green beans but that’s about it. Menu was already planned and I don’t think you son appreciates how hard it is to adapt an omnivore menu vegan.

Make her a baked potato and some plain steamed green beans. If she wants more that’s on her.

Verdict is ESH.

Anonymous wrote:“We’ll have some vegetable sides, but I’ve already done all my shopping, so feel free to get yourselves groceries and anything you want to have on hand. If you had given me advance notice, I would have prepared, but at this stage I will not be running out to the store again. If that changes your desire to come over, I understand.”

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“We’ll have some vegetable sides, but I’ve already done all my shopping, so feel free to get yourselves groceries and anything you want to have on hand. If you had given me advance notice, I would have prepared, but at this stage I will not be running out to the store again. If that changes your desire to come over, I understand.”

My brother just told me he is bringing his gf for the weekend to spend Christmas with us. He also mentioned she is now vegan and if I would make some sides for her. My family and I are very health conscience and exercise daily but on holidays we will indulge and are meat eaters. Christmas eve dinner we are having steak and xmas dinner we are having ham & turkey. This whole thing has rubbed me the wrong way. I am so busy I don't have time to educate myself on vegan dishes. Even writing this post I am doing it waiting for my curbside pick up. He sent me a "small" list of items she cannot have. No meat, dairy, eggs, honey, seafood blaw blaw blaw. I responded I did not have time to cater to her food preferences and if I make them there is a 100% chance there will be cross contamination with the "bad" food. I advised him to go to moms and use her kitchen and to get to cooking and he could bring the side dishes they prepared themselves. He went on a rant about how I don't like her (I don't - whole other story) and that if it were someone else I would take the time to make the side dishes. I assured him I would not. I also reminded him if his gf caused any drama it would not be well received and would have to leave if she did. I told him I loved him and hung up. I feel a tiny twinge that I might have been a jerk. I also feel like they are being very very inconsiderate. Any advice? Am I the worst host by telling them to cook their own food?