Anonymous wrote:
At the recommendation of this board we got "It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health" a few years ago.
I remember thinking that it had a lot of info on masturbation, penetration etc... so at the time I thought that it was comprehensive.

Fast forward now. DD is now 14 and identifies as gay. During sex ed at school, she told me that they are learning how to use condoms. This and a few questions made me realize that neither the school curriculum nor the book discuss the basics of female gay sex.

What would be a good book that would be a bit more 2021 than It's perfectly Normal but in the same style (meant for kids & matter of fact)?

[She is only 14 and I am not pushing her to be sexually active. However, I'd like her to have a basic sense of the mechanics without having to search online or learn from porn, in the same way that I knew about the basics of intercourse way before putting it in practice.].

Talk to GDS school, they cover all of that.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the resources. It helps to be able to text the information to my teen to make sure she has access to it. Her declaration of her orientation changes every week.

OP here ... I know! For teens that are changing and are yet to discover what they like or don't like, it seems crazy to try to label things. Maybe they could see how it goes and update us later or not on the label

Anyway I think that it is good to have safe and inclusive sources of information

Thanks for the resources. It helps to be able to text the information to my teen to make sure she has access to it. Her declaration of her orientation changes every week.

Thanks a lot for the recommendations. I contacted the sexpositive authors at the recommendation of pp above and wanted to share with everyone their recommendations that I found extremely useful. Some perfect for now, some for a little later....

Yes to 18:17pm ... I don't want to push information that they are not ready for but make the info readily available and make it very clear to them where to go for reliable information and that they can ask me about anything.




Thank you for reaching out about resources. We're happy to share a few of our favorites that are great for teens and are sex positive and inclusive:

Book: Wait, What?: A Comic Book Guide to Relationships, Bodies and Growing Up
Book: In Case You're Curious
Book: Let's Talk About It: The Teen's Guide to Sex, Relationships, and Being a Human (A Graphic Novel)
Reliable websites: scarleteen.com, sexetc.org, loveisrespect.org - you can bookmark these on their computer and let them know these are safe sites to go to if they has questions
App for teens: Roo by Planned Parenthood - available anytime to answer their questions about sexual health.
Video: Queer and Trans Sex Education
Video series: Sexual Consent by Planned Parenthood
Videos: AMAZE - short, funny animated videos on an array of sexual health topics. They were made for tweens and teenagers.

Our book is a great resource for parents and caring adults, with conversation starters to open up talks. The above options sound more like what you're seeking though. You can also search for more options anytime via our site's Resources section here by topic, age, and type. We hope you find this helpful!

With gratitude,
Jennifer (she/her)
Virtual Assistant

A few comprehensive books that are inclusive below. Not sure if explicit in the way you are seeking, but there is definitely information in them your daughter will appreciate.

I don’t know your level of comfort with information; I think it’s important to lay it out to help combat any incorrect information from what they start hearing early on from peers, porn, and YouTube. Not to push into it, but to understand so that they have it whenever they are ready

Sex: An Uncensored Introduction https://www.amazon.com/dp/1936976846/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_S0NGKXJ67GKMA54P9PHD

S.E.X., second edition: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738218847/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_FGRC4NY6ZN6RTVH5BEVW?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

You may want to post on the LGBTQIA+ board on dcum, too.

Highly suggest following "sexpositive_families" on instagram.

At the recommendation of this board we got "It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health" a few years ago.
I remember thinking that it had a lot of info on masturbation, penetration etc... so at the time I thought that it was comprehensive.

Fast forward now. DD is now 14 and identifies as gay. During sex ed at school, she told me that they are learning how to use condoms. This and a few questions made me realize that neither the school curriculum nor the book discuss the basics of female gay sex.

What would be a good book that would be a bit more 2021 than It's perfectly Normal but in the same style (meant for kids & matter of fact)?

[She is only 14 and I am not pushing her to be sexually active. However, I'd like her to have a basic sense of the mechanics without having to search online or learn from porn, in the same way that I knew about the basics of intercourse way before putting it in practice.].