Anonymous
12/08/2021 16:04
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I knew we were one and done when I saw the price of daycare.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 15:07
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I had the third that I always wanted and feel like I won the lottery
Anonymous
12/08/2021 15:07
Subject: Re:How did you know you were done having kids?
After a lot of back and forth we just came back to the idea that we were happy with our family as it was. If we're happy why change it.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 15:07
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
Anonymous wrote:I loved the baby/toddler years. But once my youngest was three, I didn’t want to go back to them - we can do big kid stuff like cool day trips, skiing, etc - no naps! No baby food! No 6 pm bedtimes! It wouldn’t seem fair to my seven year old that he couldn’t do things bc of a baby at home. Plus, the age gap was getting big, and it is hard to find something that is appropriate for a two year old AND a nine year old. (Babies go everywhere, but I was worried about a few years later.)
This is where I'm at: 3-year old and 9-year old and I'm 40. Part of me longs for a third baby because we've had a lot of financial success recently and we're finally in a position to afford it. But the other part of me feels like it would be unfair to my other two. I want them to be able to play travel sports and go on fun family vacations and a baby will change our dynamic. I'm really torn. Because of my age, it's decision time.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 15:03
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I loved the baby/toddler years. But once my youngest was three, I didn’t want to go back to them - we can do big kid stuff like cool day trips, skiing, etc - no naps! No baby food! No 6 pm bedtimes! It wouldn’t seem fair to my seven year old that he couldn’t do things bc of a baby at home. Plus, the age gap was getting big, and it is hard to find something that is appropriate for a two year old AND a nine year old. (Babies go everywhere, but I was worried about a few years later.)
Anonymous
12/08/2021 15:01
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I just felt really content with the family we had. I didn’t feel like we were missing out on another kid. And I have health issues so that played into it.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 15:01
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I had one very easy baby.... and it felt like I had been kidnapped by aliens. I knew I could not handle another and was at my limit.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 14:59
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I had my fourth miscarriage and ran out of IVF coverage through insurance.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 14:54
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
Anonymous wrote:DH and I are still on the fence about having one more kid. We are 38 and have 3 right now (7, 5 and almost 2) and the idea of a vasectomy seems too permanent. BUT I am old. And we have 3 kids already. If we did it we would have to do it now or never. I keep waffling back and forth!
You are just in the beginning. Three is plenty and will keep you very busy.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 14:53
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
Since our third was born, I have not wanted another or had any doubt. My youngest is almost 3 and I am 37. Also, we could not afford a fourth both financially and time wise without having to move and send the kids to public school.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 14:52
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I knew even before we got married. It was something we agreed on while we were talking about getting engaged.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 14:52
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I have kids the exact same age. I’m 35 and my husband is 40. I was open to a fourth, but I know we are done. We are both very busy at work and as the kids are getting older and in activities there are even more demands for our time. I feel stretched and don’t have the emotional or mental bandwidth to add another child. My first two were boys and my third a girl. If the third was a boy I may feel differently. Not sure if that plays into your dynamic.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 14:47
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
I knew because I couldn't afford the time and money to raise anymore than I had.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 14:45
Subject: Re:How did you know you were done having kids?
I had my last at 38, and am now 55. I can't tell you how glad I am not to have a kid younger than that at home. No car pools, no running around after them. Consider that you may be tired and done when the last is a late teen. Three is plenty of kids. YMMV of course, but I wouldn't wanted to have had a 4th at 40 or whatever.
Anonymous
12/08/2021 14:43
Subject: How did you know you were done having kids?
DH and I are still on the fence about having one more kid. We are 38 and have 3 right now (7, 5 and almost 2) and the idea of a vasectomy seems too permanent. BUT I am old. And we have 3 kids already. If we did it we would have to do it now or never. I keep waffling back and forth!