Anonymous wrote:That may be the club's approach but not necessarily the coach. Find a coach that cares about the development of the player, is able to communicate with the player on what they actually need to improve, and challenge the player to get to a higher level. It's hard to find but they are out there.
From my experience those that talk a big game about ABC tournament, scores, rankings are those that care more about the status of the team and are usually quick to demote a player or overload the team with numbers to recruit an outside player to make the team better. After or before tryouts, if the coach is unwilling to talk to you about himself, his team, and approach, think twice as that will likely be the same all year long. I feel like most parents are putting their kids in teams based on the status of the club for FOMO and regret the experience in the end without any development from their player.
It is easy to blame clubs for this culture, but it is really a parent issue ultimately. People here have $$ and are willing to pay club soccer fees for kids that aren't very good. Some do it to say their kids are playing "club" or "travel". Many others want a paid coaching experience and can afford it (and their kids don't mind being on the 2nd, 3rd, 4th team). If your kid isn't drilling and practicing on their own, you really don't need to pay for club soccer. Rec is just fine. It's unlikely that a lot of these kids will "develop" by the way. What does that even mean? People have chosen to have their kids in a club system for a variety of reasons, often it is not really "development".