Anonymous
11/28/2021 08:56
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
I have two adopted children. One is high achieving and driven, and one is not.
Anonymous
11/28/2021 07:46
Subject: Re:How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:+3. And genetic. But positive role modeling can have a positive effect.
I don't think I agree. I have a friend who is the daughter of a highly accomplished lawyer and is accomplished herself. Her older brothers though have basically not done much and live off their Dad's money.
So good genetics from Dad, right? Well no, my friend is the one who's adopted, her brothers were not.
What is nature and what is nurture can be studied for years.
Anonymous
11/28/2021 07:45
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
Anonymous wrote:It's innate.
Agree - from a disciplined and high achieving kid. I’ll tell you I was never paid for grades. I think it has to be intrinsic motivation.
Anonymous
11/28/2021 07:44
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You don’t want that.
About 90% of the disciplined and high achieving adults who I know are stressed and never satisfied (i.e., miserable).
Also, I’m going to have to go with it’s a combination of an innately anxious personality (nature) and a demanding parent who is also disciplined and high achieving.
This
I don’t agree. I was the driven, perfectionistic straight A student and I did not struggle with anxiety and my parents were typical 80s/hands off. It certainly can be a personality type associated with anxiety and intense parenting, but not always. I do agree that for the most part, inner drive and persistence is innate.
Anonymous
11/28/2021 07:22
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
I strived for independent adults. Teach them to work hard and place a high priority on their education. Teach them to be kind reliable humans. The rest will work itself out.
Anonymous
11/28/2021 02:12
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
Anonymous wrote:You don’t want that.
About 90% of the disciplined and high achieving adults who I know are stressed and never satisfied (i.e., miserable).
Also, I’m going to have to go with it’s a combination of an innately anxious personality (nature) and a demanding parent who is also disciplined and high achieving.
This
Anonymous
11/27/2021 22:57
Subject: Re:How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
Anonymous wrote:+3. And genetic. But positive role modeling can have a positive effect.
I don't think I agree. I have a friend who is the daughter of a highly accomplished lawyer and is accomplished herself. Her older brothers though have basically not done much and live off their Dad's money.
So good genetics from Dad, right? Well no, my friend is the one who's adopted, her brothers were not.
Anonymous
11/27/2021 22:54
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
You don’t want that.
About 90% of the disciplined and high achieving adults who I know are stressed and never satisfied (i.e., miserable).
Also, I’m going to have to go with it’s a combination of an innately anxious personality (nature) and a demanding parent who is also disciplined and high achieving.
About 90% of the disciplined and high achieving adults who I know are stressed and never satisfied (i.e., miserable).
Also, I’m going to have to go with it’s a combination of an innately anxious personality (nature) and a demanding parent who is also disciplined and high achieving.
Anonymous
11/27/2021 22:50
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
They are born with it.
Anonymous
11/27/2021 22:50
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
Don’t spoil them. Be humble. Focus on education. Give them chores. Live beneath your means. Good luck!
Anonymous
11/27/2021 22:50
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
Marry a very disciplined high achieving adult for the best chance at passing on those genes to your kids.
Otherwise, predictability in schedule, getting your child involved in the running of the household, paying attention to what's going on in school by direct means (ie don't just look at grades/teacher comments), don't get a divorce, minimize the kids' exposure to digital crack, go to your church/mosque weekly, join some kind of scouting organization, read classics at bedtime, have a decent library at home, spend time with the kids. And, most importantly, stop envying people.
Otherwise, predictability in schedule, getting your child involved in the running of the household, paying attention to what's going on in school by direct means (ie don't just look at grades/teacher comments), don't get a divorce, minimize the kids' exposure to digital crack, go to your church/mosque weekly, join some kind of scouting organization, read classics at bedtime, have a decent library at home, spend time with the kids. And, most importantly, stop envying people.
Anonymous
11/27/2021 22:48
Subject: Re:How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
+3. And genetic. But positive role modeling can have a positive effect.
Anonymous
11/27/2021 22:47
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
Anonymous wrote:It's innate.
I agree. - mom of 3
Anonymous
11/27/2021 22:41
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
It's innate.
Anonymous
11/27/2021 21:43
Subject: How to raise disciplined and high achieving children?
I am not very disciplined and high achieving and have envied these perfect adults who have well organized and successful lives. I’d like to pass on some good habits to my children. Tips? Strategies?