Read the book, How to Look Expensive.

Good guidance, but of course, stay true to who you are.

Oy oy, here goes, be slender, wear skinny jeans, loose tops, sleek flats or block heels, straight hair, no makeup makeup, elegant bag.

There are hundreds of blogs you can follow for this formula.

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Anonymous wrote:If you were actually UMC, you would know this already and do it naturally.

Usually this is true unless you are an immigrant

OP here, I am an immigrant and Pakistani.

Anonymous wrote:Thank god my UC DH isn’t a superficial narcissist. He loves me however I dress.

You're already married. Hopefully you can understand that young people don't have the same criteria as older people, when looking for a life partner. If you met in college and were both in sweatpants all day, that's one thing. If OP is in her 30s and wears sweatpants and can't meet guys, then, you might suspect that the sweatpants aren't helping.

Anonymous wrote:This is hilarious and I’m really, really hoping these comments are jokes. I’m overweight, have tattoos and i don’t care about my clothes. I don’t watch my speech or tone of voice. I’ve never plucked an eyebrow in my life. I attract plenty of UMC and UC men. I’m just me. I like myself, I have a ton of friends, and I have never had any issues dating. You people are delusional.

It's not ridiculous, because:
1. OP clearly doesn't have a confident personality like you.
2. She probably wants to get married at some point, and wants to attract the right kind of attention.

So we're helping her out.

Anonymous wrote:If you were actually UMC, you would know this already and do it naturally.

Usually this is true unless you are an immigrant

Thank god my UC DH isn’t a superficial narcissist. He loves me however I dress.

some school is definitely out this week. JFC

This is hilarious and I’m really, really hoping these comments are jokes. I’m overweight, have tattoos and i don’t care about my clothes. I don’t watch my speech or tone of voice. I’ve never plucked an eyebrow in my life. I attract plenty of UMC and UC men. I’m just me. I like myself, I have a ton of friends, and I have never had any issues dating. You people are delusional.

Simple jewelry, no tattoos or piercings (except ears), nothing too revealing or “cheap” looking, minimal makeup, nice shoes, watch, and handbag. Watch your speech and tone of voice - not too loud, no bad language. In other words, act like a lady.

Dear goodness, is this always the same obsessed poster?

You need to look clean and put-together, OP, whoever you consort with. Casual means a style (like jeans and a large sweater), it doesn't mean schlumpy (jeans must fit your figure, sweater mustn't pill).

Pay attention to your body: nice clean arch to your brows (don't overpluck), as clear, glowing skin as you can for your skin type and age, soft hands and clean nails, healthy hair. It helps to be reasonably fit and slim. These basics are so important.

If you select something that's edgy, like long nails, or over-the-knee boots, or wild colors of make-up/polish/hair dye, or particularly deep decolletee, whatever it is, remember to have the rest of you be more conservative, otherwise you'll look weird.

If you were actually UMC, you would know this already and do it naturally.

This is so stupid.

Why don’t you tell us how you dress and style yourself currently.

How should I be dressing, styling and presenting myself to signal to UMC that I am one of them? I am generally very casual and I get a sense that I get mistaken, at least visually as belonging to another social class. It doesn't help that I am not white!