Anonymous
12/20/2021 20:26
Subject: When can I relax?
I did not relax until I got on an anti-anxiety med when DD was 8. It stays hard. They want to drive the car, then they go to concerts and make out with drummers.
Anonymous
12/17/2021 01:48
Subject: Re:When can I relax?
We have a heartbeat!! 164. Measurements were great.
I was having spotting (maybe from the suppository) and was assuming things were south. But they are not!!
I was having spotting (maybe from the suppository) and was assuming things were south. But they are not!!
Anonymous
12/08/2021 20:26
Subject: When can I relax?
Anonymous wrote:You’ll never relax till baby in arms. Then you’ll freak out about SIDS. I think in all honesty it took till DD was 14-18 months for me to truly accept it was real. Doing it again now and third trimester waiting for the other shoe to drop.
This. Add in a traumatic birth and NICU stay that gave me horrible separation anxiety for ages.
Anonymous
11/30/2021 13:46
Subject: When can I relax?
Brutal truth? When she was about 14 months old.
Early congrats to you.
Early congrats to you.
Anonymous
11/29/2021 20:35
Subject: When can I relax?
The beta is great news but personally I feel I have a take home baby if everything was good on the nuchal translucency scan
Anonymous
11/28/2021 21:13
Subject: When can I relax?
Anonymous wrote:You’ll never relax till baby in arms. Then you’ll freak out about SIDS. I think in all honesty it took till DD was 14-18 months for me to truly accept it was real. Doing it again now and third trimester waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Exact same experience here. Even after she was born, I was still so anxious, because I was just so sure something would happen and we wouldn’t get to keep her. Eventually, I was diagnosed with PPA
Each appointment and scan during pregnancy was reassuring, though. I had some friends who found comfort in buying a home Doppler, but I never did that. Sometimes the heartbeat can be a bit tricky to find, and I didn’t want that to add to my anxiety. But you may find one reassuring.
Congrats, OP!
Anonymous
11/25/2021 13:38
Subject: When can I relax?
Anonymous wrote:You’ll never relax till baby in arms. Then you’ll freak out about SIDS. I think in all honesty it took till DD was 14-18 months for me to truly accept it was real. Doing it again now and third trimester waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Honestly, this. Congratulations, OP! I really really hope it continues to go well for you!
Anonymous
11/25/2021 12:50
Subject: Re:When can I relax?
I never relaxed, honestly, and I won’t share my story because I don’t need to add to your anxiety. But I relaxed somewhat when baby was moving consistently. But of course I was neurotic about kick counts. And when baby was born, SIDS. And everything else as they grow. Parenthood makes me very anxious.
Anonymous
11/25/2021 12:43
Subject: When can I relax?
Anonymous wrote:Very long and rough fertility journey. After many retrievals, had one good embryo. Implanted two weeks ago. Beta on Thursday was 240. Beta on Saturday was over 600! We are over the moon and so happy. Assuming a good ultrasound with heartbeat, when can I feel like this will stick? Is it after the 12 weeks? The 20 week scan? I know I won't truly relax until the baby is safe in my arms, but I really want to enjoy this experience. The IVF journey has really sucked all the fun and enjoyment out of it and made me nervous at every turn.
With a PGS tested embryo and good betas, am I out of the woods? Or are you never truly out of the woods.
Thanks!
I don’t know the answer to this but just wanted to wish you the very best! Good luck and baby dust!
Anonymous
11/24/2021 20:26
Subject: Re:When can I relax?
Congratulations! I'm 10 weeks today after 3 failed FETs and feel the anxiety regularly, especially when my symptoms aren't as strong. However, this past week I started feeling more secure in it. I sometimes look at stats for miscarriage to assure myself that I have a 96% of NOT having one. I also joined a Reddit group for pregnant women who went through infertility and like to check out the chat or pose a question when I'm feeling anxious - it's called InfertilityBabies. Good luck to you over the next few months!
Anonymous
11/24/2021 20:19
Subject: When can I relax?
You’ll never relax till baby in arms. Then you’ll freak out about SIDS. I think in all honesty it took till DD was 14-18 months for me to truly accept it was real. Doing it again now and third trimester waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Anonymous
11/24/2021 19:46
Subject: When can I relax?
You gradually relax. It’s a series of hurdles. The first trimester is the hardest. You’ve made it through the betas. Next is the heartbeat at 6 weeks. I’d get another at 9’weeks. If you see the heartbeat after 8.5 weeks, the chance for a m/c plummets. After that, it gets easier with the various scans.
Congratulations!
Congratulations!
Anonymous
11/24/2021 19:34
Subject: Re:When can I relax?
You never truly relax. Welcome to motherhood, particularly motherhood after infertility 
congratulations on your positive test. Just embrace the cautious optimism, and try to find comfort in the statistics in your favor. I was quiet about my pregnancies for this reason - always seemed to be nervous the other shoe would drop. The positive of all of it is just how in love you’ll be with your baby when they arrive. It is that much more meaningful after struggling. Best of luck to you.
congratulations on your positive test. Just embrace the cautious optimism, and try to find comfort in the statistics in your favor. I was quiet about my pregnancies for this reason - always seemed to be nervous the other shoe would drop. The positive of all of it is just how in love you’ll be with your baby when they arrive. It is that much more meaningful after struggling. Best of luck to you.
Anonymous
11/21/2021 13:44
Subject: Re:When can I relax?
Congratulations!
Short answer: after they graduate you to OB (so after ultrasounds and heartbeat etc)
Long answer? You’ll probably never feel a relaxed pregnancy every day all day but enjoy the moments when you do feel relaxed and just find strategies to cope through the times when anxiety threatens to swamp you. Just remember that pregnancy is stressful even for parents who haven’t experienced infertility. So, in some ways you can expect a “normal” experience from here on in.
Short answer: after they graduate you to OB (so after ultrasounds and heartbeat etc)
Long answer? You’ll probably never feel a relaxed pregnancy every day all day but enjoy the moments when you do feel relaxed and just find strategies to cope through the times when anxiety threatens to swamp you. Just remember that pregnancy is stressful even for parents who haven’t experienced infertility. So, in some ways you can expect a “normal” experience from here on in.
Anonymous
11/21/2021 13:02
Subject: When can I relax?
Very long and rough fertility journey. After many retrievals, had one good embryo. Implanted two weeks ago. Beta on Thursday was 240. Beta on Saturday was over 600! We are over the moon and so happy. Assuming a good ultrasound with heartbeat, when can I feel like this will stick? Is it after the 12 weeks? The 20 week scan? I know I won't truly relax until the baby is safe in my arms, but I really want to enjoy this experience. The IVF journey has really sucked all the fun and enjoyment out of it and made me nervous at every turn.
With a PGS tested embryo and good betas, am I out of the woods? Or are you never truly out of the woods.
Thanks!
With a PGS tested embryo and good betas, am I out of the woods? Or are you never truly out of the woods.
Thanks!