Some people still organically falling in love anymore anymore or is it a wholesale shopping process for relationships?

At larger colleges, students are actually meeting each other on the dating apps by setting the radius to 1 mile. It opens up A LOT more people than just your small circle of friends/roommates/classmates. At a 20,000 student campus there's a ton of potential mates but you might never run across them in-person.

Anonymous wrote:Nobody “dated” at my college. Late 90s.

Half of my friends were living with significant others by senior year. Early 2000s

First or second or third, all marriages are difficult, specially if there are financial or emotional issues. All can be happy, unhappy or lead to divorce. Second marriage sounds like a wonderful idea. The mistakes from the first marriage can be corrected so that real happiness can be discovered. For some couples, the second marriage is perfection. For most couples on their second marriage, however, divorce is going to become the outcome once again. There is is emotional baggage, less flexibility, exes, children, step children, friends, finances, etc are involved which can complicate things. Once people deal with one divorce, there is less inhibition in doing it again if it’s difficult to adjust.

Anonymous wrote:According to research statistics,
50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation.
41 percent of all first marriages end in divorce.
60 percent of second marriages end in divorce.
73 percent of all third marriages end in divorce.

Lies, damn lies, and statistics. For the DCUM crowd, the 41% of first marriages ending is way lower. That number includes Joe Bob and Sally Bob marrying at 17 and divorcing at 19. We just have affairs and keep up appearances.

Puh-lease. Dating sites are just another means to meet people. People still date/find partners through mutual friends, mutual interests and by accident. You have to put yourself out there whether it's in person or online.

I dated occasionally in college (mid-80s) but few of my friends had BFs/GFs and even fewer married them after college. I didn't even meet Dh until I was 29. I also want to say the majority of Americans do not even attend college and the majority of those who do are female. Even in my day, women went to college to be educated, not find husbands.

Nobody “dated” at my college. Late 90s.

Anonymous wrote:This is why I've had so much success dating women in their 20s. That generation is just not as good at in-person conversation due to all the online stuff, while I'm pretty good at it. I meet women at bars and restaurants.

How old are you? Im 40 but have used date sites and sites like meetuos since I was 18

According to research statistics,
50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation.
41 percent of all first marriages end in divorce.
60 percent of second marriages end in divorce.
73 percent of all third marriages end in divorce.

I guess it depends upon people and circumstances. Young can be mature and loyal, older can be immature and flighty or vice versa. If it wasn’t the case, rate of success would be higher in relationships and marriages after 30+ but it’s not.

Oh god no. My college BF was a good guy, but I would have been miserable with him for the rest of my life. I’m a way, way different person now than I was at 21. Plus I definitely needed a few years of fun, who wants to be shackled down so early??

Just anecdote, but my H married his college gf at 20. She had mental illness (like, really severe mental illness) that didn’t come out until a couple years later. Same thing happened to a good friend of mine, she married her high school sweetheart at 20 and a couple years later his bipolar disorder came out. The brain doesn’t finish developing until mid-20s, way too risky to marry before then, you never know what they’ll turn into.

Met my H when I was 34 and he was 40, it worked really well for us. We both felt fully developed, knew who we were, and each had a couple years of therapy under our belts. Wouldn’t have done it any other way.

This is why I've had so much success dating women in their 20s. That generation is just not as good at in-person conversation due to all the online stuff, while I'm pretty good at it. I meet women at bars and restaurants.

I went to college pre dating sites and left single as did many of my firends, college dating is not the foolproof method leading to marriage you seem to think it is.


you also assume that everyone wants to meet a life partner between 18 and 22.


It's Saturday morning find something better to do with your time, maybe spend it with the spouse you met at 18.

And if you are single perhaps your issue isn't the dating sites but that you're bemoaning the good old days on a parenting site.

I met my spouse at the end of my freshman year of college. We were 19 (me) and 17 (him). Obviously there have been ups and downs, but we’re still happily married. My friends met people over dating sites and got matched with good partners. Many of them are happily married. Others met young, in college and it didn’t work out or met online and it didn’t work out. In fact, given all the variables, I think meeting someone you’ve matched with for whatever factors matter to you seems like a better start than randomly saying hi to a guy on the dance floor at a college party (as I did).

How internet dating sites killed college campus dating? Once upon a time your undergrad and graduate/professional schools used to be the places for dating, finding compatible partners and cultivating relationships. Somehow, college campuses became places to just hook up or not but to avoid getting serious. Internet dating sites took its place and people started trying to chase and loose strangers or eventually settle for people data connected them to, sort of like semi-arrange marriages. In the end, most people can’t find love well into their mud-thirties when they are ready to settle due to fear of ending up alone. Wouldn’t it be healthier for young adults to ditch match-making sites and go back to match finding in life during a phase when they are surrounded by lots of potential matches?