I would have no clue unless she told me. That’s what college is for. As long as her grades are good I don’t care at all.

I’m not a helicopter mom.

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

omg!!! cut the apron strings!! study abroad is about travel and experiencing world culture. not about an academic grind.

Heck. yes! Cutting class is OK periodically if you are managing the course and the expectations. And do it for fun good things, like, road trip to another college for a concert, traveling to another city, first perfect spring day to just hang out on the quad on blankets.

If you need more information on the details and the rationale (this is the most serious onion article I have ever read: https://www.theonion.com/account-manager-fondly-remembers-day-in-college-when-ev-1819565644

it’s part of being an adult to learn how to make the tradeoffs between fun and work properly.

the only thing I would be disappointed about is if my kid in a study abroad program was hanging out exclusively with Americans and speaking English all the time.

LOL. I studied abroad. My spouse studied abroad. All of our kids studied abroad. Whether it's a foreign language program or not (and most of ours were), you're spending the overwhelming majority of your time hanging out and traveling with the other Americans on your program. The only exception is if you're cute and female, in which case you get attention from foreign guys who think American women are easy.

You can't control your child anymore.

You will feel proud of some of their decisions/actions, and concerned about others.

You had your time to instill values and judgement in her...so hopefully she won't go too far off the rails. But, she is young and will make mistakes just like we all did. And that will leave its mark on her, just as you did.

I am a little like you (i.e., still trying to guide her in the way I think is best). But we have to be careful or they just won't tell us what is going on in their lives, because they don't want to deal with the disapproval....

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

omg!!! cut the apron strings!! study abroad is about travel and experiencing world culture. not about an academic grind.

Heck. yes! Cutting class is OK periodically if you are managing the course and the expectations. And do it for fun good things, like, road trip to another college for a concert, traveling to another city, first perfect spring day to just hang out on the quad on blankets.

If you need more information on the details and the rationale (this is the most serious onion article I have ever read: https://www.theonion.com/account-manager-fondly-remembers-day-in-college-when-ev-1819565644

it’s part of being an adult to learn how to make the tradeoffs between fun and work properly.

the only thing I would be disappointed about is if my kid in a study abroad program was hanging out exclusively with Americans and speaking English all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

omg!!! cut the apron strings!! study abroad is about travel and experiencing world culture. not about an academic grind.

Heck. yes! Cutting class is OK periodically if you are managing the course and the expectations. And do it for fun good things, like, road trip to another college for a concert, traveling to another city, first perfect spring day to just hang out on the quad on blankets.

If you need more information on the details and the rationale (this is the most serious onion article I have ever read: https://www.theonion.com/account-manager-fondly-remembers-day-in-college-when-ev-1819565644

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

omg!!! cut the apron strings!! study abroad is about travel and experiencing world culture. not about an academic grind.

Heck. yes! Cutting class is OK periodically if you are managing the course and the expectations. And do it for fun good things, like, road trip to another college for a concert, traveling to another city, first perfect spring day to just hang out on the quad on blankets.

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

Are you kidding?! My study abroad program didn’t even let us take classes on Friday so we could take long weekends and travel. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity after COVID insanity. As long as he doesn’t get kicked out of the program for constantly missing class, let the kid have fun.

So kid basically crossed state lines?

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Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

omg!!! cut the apron strings!! study abroad is about travel and experiencing world culture. not about an academic grind.

At 18 my “kid” became an adult.

Anonymous wrote:What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

Op here. DC is supposed to be in country x for study abroad. They went to Italy with friends long weekend, missed classes. After the initial where tf are you text chat and what about school question, I got over it shaking my head. But curious what drum parents would do in that situation.

Either you trust your kid or you don't.

The details of where they live and what they are choosing to do or not do don't really matter.

At some point, they are expected to live their own life, make their own choices and live with whatever consequences follow.

What other country??? Are we talking Canada? Did you go to college OP? Did you ever skip class??

How on earth would a parent know?

Do you even know (they tell you)? Do you care?
What if they skipped class bc they went someplace…say, crossed the state line for some fun and shenanigans ?…
What if they skipped class bc they went someplace…say another country and only told you After they did it