Anonymous
11/12/2021 11:43
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
Seems like a good test for us introvert homebodies 
For extroverts, it doesn't seem like enough, since the last thing they want to do is stay home.
For extroverts, it doesn't seem like enough, since the last thing they want to do is stay home.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 11:38
Subject: Re:I put men I date through a Lab test.
Anonymous wrote:My test (I'm a straight woman) was the check test.
Go out to dinner. When the bill comes, insist on paying half as it's important to me to pay my own way.
Good ones say "are you sure?" and then are fine with it.
Guys lost in the depths of their own toxic masculinity loose their shit. I've actually had to physically wrestle a check away from a guy once. Just to pay for my own food! Hard pass.
For some, it’s not toxic masculinity, but being raised that if you invite someone you pay for their meal. When DH and I were dating, he was fine with taking turns based on who invited, but not comfortable with splitting the check if he initiated the date.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 11:32
Subject: Re:I put men I date through a Lab test.
My test (I'm a straight woman) was the check test.
Go out to dinner. When the bill comes, insist on paying half as it's important to me to pay my own way.
Good ones say "are you sure?" and then are fine with it.
Guys lost in the depths of their own toxic masculinity loose their shit. I've actually had to physically wrestle a check away from a guy once. Just to pay for my own food! Hard pass.
Go out to dinner. When the bill comes, insist on paying half as it's important to me to pay my own way.
Good ones say "are you sure?" and then are fine with it.
Guys lost in the depths of their own toxic masculinity loose their shit. I've actually had to physically wrestle a check away from a guy once. Just to pay for my own food! Hard pass.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 10:38
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
My test was seeing whether we still wanted to be around each other after a 14 hour drive.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 10:30
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
Guy here. I agree with the lab test. Nothing wrong with making sure you enjoy his company doing both indoor and out in the world activities. Seems a reasonable criteria to assess a potential partner. But, the other posters are correct that once you get married and have kids, most activities will revolve around being at home.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 09:57
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
Anonymous wrote:The test is that I have to enjoy going out with them more than I enjoy staying home and watching Netflix with my chocolate Lab.
So other people are here just to entertain you? Good luck!
Anonymous
11/12/2021 09:25
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
Enjoy this time to yourself!
Anonymous
11/12/2021 09:25
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
Anonymous wrote:When I was 19, my best friend and I would test the guys we dated by having the other hit on them and see if they took the bait.
You'd be surprised how many of your friends actually slept with the guy and didn't say a word to you.
-source, a guy who was tested and banged a whole bunch of bffs.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 09:24
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
Anonymous wrote:The test is that I have to enjoy going out with them more than I enjoy staying home and watching Netflix with my chocolate Lab.
What’s your point?
Anonymous
11/12/2021 09:22
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
Anonymous wrote:The test is that I have to enjoy going out with them more than I enjoy staying home and watching Netflix with my chocolate Lab.
Ugh, OP... I don't know if sex with you is worth THAT much.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 09:20
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
Anonymous wrote:The test is that I have to enjoy going out with them more than I enjoy staying home and watching Netflix with my chocolate Lab.
If you're a homebody, then maybe invite your date over for dinner & movie at your house instead.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 09:17
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
Anonymous wrote:Not a great test...if you want to get married. Staying home with them is the more important one.
I liked going out with my exH before we married. I did not really enjoy being alone with him though. Most of marriage is being alone with that person...it is not dating. If you like doing mundane things with them, that is way more important than going out in public with them. In public, you can hide the cracks and it can become like a performance. Home is where it matters.
Yep. If you want to do stuff with them that is too mundane for social media, they may be a keeper.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 09:14
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
Not a great test...if you want to get married. Staying home with them is the more important one.
I liked going out with my exH before we married. I did not really enjoy being alone with him though. Most of marriage is being alone with that person...it is not dating. If you like doing mundane things with them, that is way more important than going out in public with them. In public, you can hide the cracks and it can become like a performance. Home is where it matters.
I liked going out with my exH before we married. I did not really enjoy being alone with him though. Most of marriage is being alone with that person...it is not dating. If you like doing mundane things with them, that is way more important than going out in public with them. In public, you can hide the cracks and it can become like a performance. Home is where it matters.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 09:11
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
When I was 19, my best friend and I would test the guys we dated by having the other hit on them and see if they took the bait.
Anonymous
11/12/2021 09:10
Subject: I put men I date through a Lab test.
The test is that I have to enjoy going out with them more than I enjoy staying home and watching Netflix with my chocolate Lab.