Anonymous wrote:I think that some women who are looking to get married might feel like a man 3-5 years older is more on their schedule than someone their ages. But everyone varies.

DH is 3 years older than me and it has always felt like the perfect gap. IME women are generally more emotionally mature than men so the guy being just a bit older is good.

I think that some women who are looking to get married might feel like a man 3-5 years older is more on their schedule than someone their ages. But everyone varies.

Statistically, no age gap. The bigger the gap, the higher statistical likelihood for divorce.

Personally and anecdotally it seems to be 2 -6 years. And don't hate me DCUM seems to work best when the guy is the older one.
Of course there are exceptions but the 2-6 year gap seems to work best from a relationship standpoint, the couples seem to relate to each other on a social level they have the same touch points and there also seems to be less of a imbalance if power or caregiver dynamic

Anonymous wrote:Over ten years reveals hidden mommy/daddy issues.

but what about non-hidden mommy/daddy issues. Like if you admit "my mother didn't love me and therefore I'm trying to work through my baggage with this woman who is 10 years old than me"....is that good, then?

I mean, let's be real: Everyone is working out their parent issues with their parents in some way, until they've approximately 14 years of therapy. After 14 years of therapy, everyone becomes reborn and ageless.

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Anonymous wrote:Over ten years reveals hidden mommy/daddy issues.

Not true. Some people just like older partners. It doesn’t mean they’re defective in any way.

OK, Mommy.

15 years. By the time her sex drive dies I'll be too old to care.

Anonymous wrote:Born on the exact same day or one is a pedo and the other has daddy issues. *bangs gavel

Lol. Best answer ever.

1-2 years. Great to go through life with someone that gets the same cultural references, is on the same energy level. Same age when you go to have kids, etc.

I met my husband when we were in our mid 20s, now 50. It's been great. We both have always been extremely fit and active.

I just couldn't imagine marrying an old dude---or even dating someone 10+ years older when I was in my mid-20s because the kinds of things we were doing together back then---clubbing, late night raves in Europe, crazy times, etc.

Born on the exact same day or one is a pedo and the other has daddy issues. *bangs gavel

Within 5 years in either direction seems easiest, but of course there are happy couples with more of a gap.

Anonymous wrote:Over ten years reveals hidden mommy/daddy issues.

Not true. Some people just like older partners. It doesn’t mean they’re defective in any way.

I don’t think its about agenas it is about the people in the relationship.

Its like you’re asking what the best hair color combination is for people in relationships.

Over ten years reveals hidden mommy/daddy issues.

Same age?
1-2 years difference?
10+ year difference?