Don’t text back.

Op here! I texted no worries as I didnt want to sound batshit and this was his response: ‘ I’m so so sorry I’ve been dying to see that movie 😫 let me know about the tickets I’m happy to pay for them since I’m the asshole right now 😞‘

I don’t know why but this annoys me even more ! It sounds possibly legit... But...’I'm dying to see that movie, instead of I was really looking forward to spending time with you.’

I don’t know if I should call him out on it, Im just annoyed and won’t even text back tonight til I have my emotions on check as I really liked him and now its looking like it might not work out

Sorry OP, last-minute cancels are the worst.

Anonymous wrote:Eh. I’ve dated a number of divorced dads and am in a relationship with one now. I prefer to date men who have very clear cut custody schedules. When each parent has the kid, if they need someone else to take care of the kids, it’s on the parents who has custody to find someone. It’s not the other parents job to fill in. I would not be cool with this happening frequently.

I’d keep dating other people.

I think it a hood sign about the dad if his ex is relying on him in an emergency.

Anonymous wrote:It’s now almost eleven o’clock. The kids have presumably been in bed for a couple hours now. Has he called you to talk? Followed up with more texts?

Right, also please take the money and add tax.

It’s now almost eleven o’clock. The kids have presumably been in bed for a couple hours now. Has he called you to talk? Followed up with more texts?

It doesn't sound like an excuse, but as a pp said you may need to find someone without kids or a person with a clear-cut custody schedule.. Oh and just because he canceled doesn't mean you can't go out and do your own thing.

Anonymous wrote:Eh. I’ve dated a number of divorced dads and am in a relationship with one now. I prefer to date men who have very clear cut custody schedules. When each parent has the kid, if they need someone else to take care of the kids, it’s on the parents who has custody to find someone. It’s not the other parents job to fill in. I would not be cool with this happening frequently.

I’d keep dating other people.

Ah, you’ll make for quite the resentful and disliked step-mom.

Anonymous wrote:Eh. I’ve dated a number of divorced dads and am in a relationship with one now. I prefer to date men who have very clear cut custody schedules. When each parent has the kid, if they need someone else to take care of the kids, it’s on the parents who has custody to find someone. It’s not the other parents job to fill in. I would not be cool with this happening frequently.

I’d keep dating other people.

Same here. And I’m single with two kids.

Anonymous wrote:
‘I have some bad news 😔 my ex got called in for an emergency at work and I gotta grab the kids. I’m so sorry! If you can get a refund on the tickets let me know. If not I will pay you for the tickets!! I feel so bad I’m sorry!’

Doubt it is an excuse, but if you can't normalize yourself to this, maybe date childless.

Eh. I’ve dated a number of divorced dads and am in a relationship with one now. I prefer to date men who have very clear cut custody schedules. When each parent has the kid, if they need someone else to take care of the kids, it’s on the parents who has custody to find someone. It’s not the other parents job to fill in. I would not be cool with this happening frequently.

I’d keep dating other people.

He handy this well. Do you have kids? This is what happens.

Sounds reasonable. He apologizes, offers to pay for the tickets, etc. Life happens.

He has kids. This parenting emergencies should be expected. It’s part of the package.

Not sure how I feel about this. 3rd date, we were supposed to go to the movies, 10 minutes before he was supposed to pick me up , I get this. This is after him texting me an hour prior reminding me to get ready so we wouldn’t be late. He told me before that his ex was a nurse, I know emergencies can happen and its tricky with kids, but I know men lie as well, so part of me is pissed that I got ready for nothing and also wondering if it’s just an excuse!

‘I have some bad news 😔 my ex got called in for an emergency at work and I gotta grab the kids. I’m so sorry! If you can get a refund on the tickets let me know. If not I will pay you for the tickets!! I feel so bad I’m sorry!’