Anonymous wrote:Better than him staying and escalating and both of you saying things you’ll later regret.

He’s told me that’s what he used to do (stay and blow up). I appreciated the request for time alone and the kiss.

Better than him staying and escalating and both of you saying things you’ll later regret.

I think this was a mature response. Some people have difficulty controlling their anger, so he knew the best option was to leave the situation and cool down. That's the right thing to do.

Why stay and risk having it escalate and doing something one will regret later?

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, as a married woman of nearly 20 years this is not your ideal starting point.

I haven't been married for 20 years, but he kissed her before leaving to cool off. That's not exactly unhealthy. Is it great? No, they probably need to work on communicating in a way that doesn't lead to heated exchanges too often, but its not horrible or awful.

He’s a boyfriend. Get another.

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, as a married woman of nearly 20 years this is not your ideal starting point.

Thank you. Agreed.

Anonymous wrote:What did he say?!

Super dry, hope-you’re-having-good-day type message. Most of my anxiety diminished and I know we’ll have a longer conversation later.

Yeah, as a married woman of nearly 20 years this is not your ideal starting point.

What did he say?!

Anonymous wrote:Let him come to you.

He just did. A text came through while I was writing the post! (My notifications are turned off.)

What would I do? I'd look for a new boyfriend.

He asked to be alone, so respect that and don't contact. When he approaches, it is okay to request some additional time to ponder if you want to continue the relationship.

Clearly he's not finished processing and/or calming down. I would send ONE (and ONLY one) text saying "Hey, I'm sad things got so heated last night. Ready to talk when you are." And then I'd wait. If five days passed I'd decide we were broken up because I won't be with people who don't talk about their problems and I'd give him back all his stuff and demand mine back.

Let him come to you.

We had a heated exchange. We both got quiet sitting in silence then he tells me he needs to be alone. I said okay. He kissed me and left my house. It’s been over 12 hours and I’ve heard nothing nor reached out to him. Feeling conflicted about reaching out. WWYD?