Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 15:58     Subject: Re:What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Anonymous wrote:Keep going until the wife ends it and /or the OWs life is ruined.


Sometimes the man ends it and confesses before the wife finds out or even suspected anything. I know: your mind is blown.

These have the best chance for not relapsing and getting help.

I think online most married women cheaters (think exit affair plan), most married men cheaters have zero plan other than getting their rocks off and if they can find a discrete, way to do this they reason nobody will get hurt. Cake and eat it too.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 15:50     Subject: Re:What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
My plan was to have sex with someone who wanted to have sex with me. Yes, to have my cake and eat it too. There was no plan, it was short-term pleasure and filling a need that wasn't filled in my marriage.

it's not complicated.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 15:23     Subject: Re:What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It was silver divorce for mine, retirement with somebody else that he carefully planned


So how did he plan it? Didn't he lose 1/2 his wealth anyway?


This happened to someone I know. The wife got a lot more than he ever planned on. And the OW he cheated with ended up dying. Karma.


I'm the pp you are responding to. I was just thinking that what can you plan at this stage except that you're going to do it. Impact on life doesn't change (e.g. dividing your wealth, impact on family).
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 15:14     Subject: Re:What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It was silver divorce for mine, retirement with somebody else that he carefully planned


So how did he plan it? Didn't he lose 1/2 his wealth anyway?


This happened to someone I know. The wife got a lot more than he ever planned on. And the OW he cheated with ended up dying. Karma.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 15:01     Subject: Re:What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Anonymous wrote:It was silver divorce for mine, retirement with somebody else that he carefully planned


At what age? And what age were kids?
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 14:59     Subject: Re:What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Anonymous wrote:It was silver divorce for mine, retirement with somebody else that he carefully planned


So how did he plan it? Didn't he lose 1/2 his wealth anyway?
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 14:42     Subject: Re:What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
It was silver divorce for mine, retirement with somebody else that he carefully planned
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 14:41     Subject: What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Anonymous wrote:Getting something that they are not getting in the relationship.


That is the game not the end game.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 14:34     Subject: What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Getting something that they are not getting in the relationship.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 13:52     Subject: Re:What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Keep going until the wife ends it and /or the OWs life is ruined.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 13:50     Subject: Re:What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Really depends on the guy, the type of relationship with the OW, and the nature of the marriage.

In most cases the plan is cake-eating until something happens to upset the balance.

Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 13:50     Subject: What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Probably no end game plan. Probably just getting it while he can.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 13:43     Subject: What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Huh? I think that people who are engaging in extramarital sex, whether it's a one time thing or on-going relationships are NOT doing any planning. That's part of the problem. They're acting impulsively, not considering the consequences and living in the moment.

A plan requires thoughtfulness and intentionality. I just don't think people are doing that.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 13:21     Subject: What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
Sex?
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2021 13:18     Subject: What’s the end game plan for a cheating husband?
What does a husband who’s cheating plan for where the relationships are going? Is it forthrills, attention, have his cake and eat it too, better relationship? Is there a plan?