Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman, but if I could get a sister wife my salary requirement would be 0.

Same! I would love a sister wife who cooks, cleans, plans social events, runs the kids to their activities, shops, budgets, plans travel. My life would be so much less stressful!

My DH didn't have a salary requirement, but he was up front he did not want to be married to a SAHM. That was fine by me (I am not cut out for SAH) with the understanding we would be equal partners in household management and childcare. That has worked out, more or less.

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Anonymous wrote:I had none, but was happy my wife (who I met in law school) wanted to be a SAHM, so it worked out perfectly.

Why in the world did your wife go to law school if her goal was SAHM? just to meet a husband?

I was going to ask the same thing. That's a lot of money down the drain!

I’m a woman, but if I could get a sister wife my salary requirement would be 0.

Anonymous wrote:I had none, but was happy my wife (who I met in law school) wanted to be a SAHM, so it worked out perfectly.

Why in the world did your wife go to law school if her goal was SAHM? just to meet a husband?

0 if she wants sex daily.

Mine did. I met them at first. Then we had a child with a chronic illness that he didn't want to deal with. I had to do it, and I took a big hit to my career. In his eyes, that's all my fault, and I am a big disappointment.

Mine did. I was upset. We stupidly married. We are divorced.

I had none, but was happy my wife (who I met in law school) wanted to be a SAHM, so it worked out perfectly.

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Anonymous wrote:According to DCUM, the sweet spot would be a totally flexible, WFH, 30 hour a week job with excellent retirement and benefits that pays 200k a year.

That’s me! It’s perfect.

But the salary grew over time. It wasn’t $200k when I met my husband at 25. It was $45k. I’m 50 now and it’s been maxed out here since I was 40.

Who is your employer?

Slightly more or slightly less than DH. Big difference will cause issues soon or later.

Anonymous wrote:According to DCUM, the sweet spot would be a totally flexible, WFH, 30 hour a week job with excellent retirement and benefits that pays 200k a year.

That’s me! It’s perfect.

But the salary grew over time. It wasn’t $200k when I met my husband at 25. It was $45k. I’m 50 now and it’s been maxed out here since I was 40.

$1M plus equity and carry
Lots of $250k board seats
Flexible job with 3 day weekends in the summer
Excellent multitasking skills to manage the house, staff, kids, me
Sexy, fit, kind, forgiving, great parent
Saved money from bonuses, etc. over the years.

According to DCUM, the sweet spot would be a totally flexible, WFH, 30 hour a week job with excellent retirement and benefits that pays 200k a year.

Did any men here take salary into account while dating? How much and why?