Anonymous
10/03/2021 18:18
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So can someone who has been through something similar or knows someone chime in - is it realistic?
I am having a hard time believing that the only job a college student could get was in cleaning. I had it easier as when my STBX left he paid my rent - had to resort to many gigs before I settled in into a permanent role, including cleaning, and it was easy to find male clients who were working professionals and therefore didn’t leave much mess and weren’t too picky (unlike some female ones).
She used to waitress before cleaning houses. She needs flexible hours and "shifts" so she can trade with others when she has to go to court or be with her kid, or go to gov't offices. Having to wait all day to get food stamps and welfare is totally realistic - and sometimes your EBT card just ... doesn't load one month and you can't reach anyone on the phone for hours and days so you have to go wait there in person. When I signed up for welfare they told me getting Medicaid was automatic but I still had to wait in lines for two days to get it, and then I couldn't sign myself and my daughter up the same day for some reason. We lived in a crappy apartment building for over a decade (low rent and they didn't check income or credit) where they'd randomly turn off electricity and water for most of the day. I remember one time when DD was in elementary school, running across the busy intersection during rush hour to the gas station to use the light there for her to do her homework. Many times I gave her a shower via candlelight. Many times I had to throw out half-cooked food because the oven went out mid-bake, and we'd eat cereal for dinner instead. I couldn't pay for school field trips. Some kind mother with a tall girl gave my short girl her DD's outgrown clothes but then her DD saw my DD wearing them, told everyone and DD came home crying and embarrassed. So yes, this seems very realistic. Except for the part where she's working on the books - I had to work off the books lest my benefits get canceled.
I am sorry that you went through that. I hope things are better for you now. I was very poor at one point in my life but I was not a mother, I was single, so not in the same situation as you or the main character in maid. So it was different for me and I was able to raise my station in life. I got my college degree at 32 and that helped a lot
Anonymous
10/03/2021 18:07
Subject: Re:Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
Watching this made me love my mother even more. She left my alcoholic dad before the inevitable happened. He never hit her but he hit near her. He punched holes in walls and threw stuff at her. Thankfully her parents were able to help and my alcoholic dad was too drunk to hire a lawyer. He moved out which meant we had a roof over our heads. My life would've turned out a whole lot differently if she hadn't left.
Anonymous
10/03/2021 17:58
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
Anonymous wrote:So can someone who has been through something similar or knows someone chime in - is it realistic?
I am having a hard time believing that the only job a college student could get was in cleaning. I had it easier as when my STBX left he paid my rent - had to resort to many gigs before I settled in into a permanent role, including cleaning, and it was easy to find male clients who were working professionals and therefore didn’t leave much mess and weren’t too picky (unlike some female ones).
She used to waitress before cleaning houses. She needs flexible hours and "shifts" so she can trade with others when she has to go to court or be with her kid, or go to gov't offices. Having to wait all day to get food stamps and welfare is totally realistic - and sometimes your EBT card just ... doesn't load one month and you can't reach anyone on the phone for hours and days so you have to go wait there in person. When I signed up for welfare they told me getting Medicaid was automatic but I still had to wait in lines for two days to get it, and then I couldn't sign myself and my daughter up the same day for some reason. We lived in a crappy apartment building for over a decade (low rent and they didn't check income or credit) where they'd randomly turn off electricity and water for most of the day. I remember one time when DD was in elementary school, running across the busy intersection during rush hour to the gas station to use the light there for her to do her homework. Many times I gave her a shower via candlelight. Many times I had to throw out half-cooked food because the oven went out mid-bake, and we'd eat cereal for dinner instead. I couldn't pay for school field trips. Some kind mother with a tall girl gave my short girl her DD's outgrown clothes but then her DD saw my DD wearing them, told everyone and DD came home crying and embarrassed. So yes, this seems very realistic. Except for the part where she's working on the books - I had to work off the books lest my benefits get canceled.
Anonymous
10/03/2021 13:13
Subject: Re:Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
It’s great! Plenty of lightness to balance out the heavy subject matter.
Anonymous
10/02/2021 22:22
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
So can someone who has been through something similar or knows someone chime in - is it realistic?
I am having a hard time believing that the only job a college student could get was in cleaning. I had it easier as when my STBX left he paid my rent - had to resort to many gigs before I settled in into a permanent role, including cleaning, and it was easy to find male clients who were working professionals and therefore didn’t leave much mess and weren’t too picky (unlike some female ones).
I am having a hard time believing that the only job a college student could get was in cleaning. I had it easier as when my STBX left he paid my rent - had to resort to many gigs before I settled in into a permanent role, including cleaning, and it was easy to find male clients who were working professionals and therefore didn’t leave much mess and weren’t too picky (unlike some female ones).
Anonymous
10/02/2021 22:10
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No. Saw the trailer and that was stressful enough
Why is it stressful? On episode one and I’m liking it. Very interesting.
WHY was it stressful?? If you've seen episode 1 you know already, bozo.
Anonymous
10/02/2021 21:55
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
Anonymous wrote:How does it "hit home"? Serious question. I am enjoying it but don't think it's realisitic at all. What am I missing (on Ep 2)
Oh my; sorry all. I'm watching sex education, not maid. lol
Anonymous
10/02/2021 21:53
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
How does it "hit home"? Serious question. I am enjoying it but don't think it's realisitic at all. What am I missing (on Ep 2)
Anonymous
10/02/2021 21:46
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else watching this? I'm not finished but it's so different from the book.
Ep1 last night. I havent read the book either. If it shows at least a few people that opportunities are not linear and choices are not black and white and that not everyone has someone to turn to and that a lot of the times moms (or dads) are really trying to do the best for their kids then its a win in my book.
Anonymous
10/02/2021 21:15
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
It's a little close to home but I'm watching it and glad Netflix is running it. I like it, very realistic. Much of it is hard to watch but still doable. I was like her, save the spots for people with 'real abuse' 😭💔. Leaving abuse and trying to survive everything that comes after (especially if family courts are involved) is a special kind of hell. The show is really good so far.
Anonymous
10/02/2021 19:50
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
Anonymous wrote:No. Saw the trailer and that was stressful enough
Why is it stressful? On episode one and I’m liking it. Very interesting.
Anonymous
10/02/2021 19:48
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
I'm OP, thanks for answering.
I didn't watch the trailer, probably should have!
I didn't watch the trailer, probably should have!
Anonymous
10/02/2021 18:58
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
Anonymous wrote:No. Saw the trailer and that was stressful enough
This. I read the book and want to watch. But the trailer hit me so hard in the heart I may not.
Anonymous
10/02/2021 18:57
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
No. Saw the trailer and that was stressful enough
Anonymous
10/02/2021 18:54
Subject: Anyone watching Maid on Netflix?
Is anyone else watching this? I'm not finished but it's so different from the book.