Anonymous
09/24/2021 19:28
Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
Divorced at 52, now 57. I’m living with someone and I have no interest in remarrying nor does he. We are both high net worth people with children and we want to keep our assets separate.
Anonymous
09/24/2021 19:16
Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Divorced at 42, now 51. Would never say that I would never remarry, but . . . I don't NEED to, financially or emotionally. So I've passed over at least 3 men who would have gone down the path to marriage because I will only make that commitment for a really healthy relationship, and we didn't have that. I would have had to be what these men needed me to be to have a successful marriage, rather than who I am, because it was all about their needs. I feel like most middle aged divorced guys can only think about themselves, and that doesn't interest me. Because I have my own money and don't feel social pressure to be married. So . . . why do it?
[Perhaps the same is true for middle aged divorced women - I only know who I meet dating]
[Perhaps the same is true for middle aged divorced women - I only know who I meet dating]
Anonymous
09/24/2021 19:14
Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:50 going through a divorce currently
I was very careful deciding whether to marry him. I was 100% sure that it was right. While I didn’t expect happily ever after, I did expect mutual respect, basic courtesy, a little kindness, an attempt to work together, etc. After years of a miserable marriage he decided to divorce me. While I wouldn’t have opted for divorce, I was tremendously relieved when he did. I have discovered that being by myself is great! I can do what I want instead of trying to please somebody who refuses to be pleased and every interaction is a minefield. I’ve also realized that being alone is not the same as loneliness. I’m a bit introverted and am happy as a clam living alone. Loneliness is when your life partner/lover/best friend withdraws emotionally and treats you with scorn, rebuffing every attempt to reach out in any way.
Also, due to my personal religious beliefs, I wouldn’t feel right remarrying. There are some causes of divorce that I might consider mitigating circumstances (infidelity, abuse, etc.), but those aren’t applicable in this case. The denomination I was raised in probably wouldn’t have an issue with it, these are just my personal beliefs, for me. What others choose to do is up to them and their beliefs. If they choose to remarry after divorce, I wish them every happiness. I just know I would have issues doing it myself, in this particular case.
How old were you when you got married?
Sounds like you are Catholic?
Anonymous
09/24/2021 19:00
Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
50 going through a divorce currently
I was very careful deciding whether to marry him. I was 100% sure that it was right. While I didn’t expect happily ever after, I did expect mutual respect, basic courtesy, a little kindness, an attempt to work together, etc. After years of a miserable marriage he decided to divorce me. While I wouldn’t have opted for divorce, I was tremendously relieved when he did. I have discovered that being by myself is great! I can do what I want instead of trying to please somebody who refuses to be pleased and every interaction is a minefield. I’ve also realized that being alone is not the same as loneliness. I’m a bit introverted and am happy as a clam living alone. Loneliness is when your life partner/lover/best friend withdraws emotionally and treats you with scorn, rebuffing every attempt to reach out in any way.
Also, due to my personal religious beliefs, I wouldn’t feel right remarrying. There are some causes of divorce that I might consider mitigating circumstances (infidelity, abuse, etc.), but those aren’t applicable in this case. The denomination I was raised in probably wouldn’t have an issue with it, these are just my personal beliefs, for me. What others choose to do is up to them and their beliefs. If they choose to remarry after divorce, I wish them every happiness. I just know I would have issues doing it myself, in this particular case.
I was very careful deciding whether to marry him. I was 100% sure that it was right. While I didn’t expect happily ever after, I did expect mutual respect, basic courtesy, a little kindness, an attempt to work together, etc. After years of a miserable marriage he decided to divorce me. While I wouldn’t have opted for divorce, I was tremendously relieved when he did. I have discovered that being by myself is great! I can do what I want instead of trying to please somebody who refuses to be pleased and every interaction is a minefield. I’ve also realized that being alone is not the same as loneliness. I’m a bit introverted and am happy as a clam living alone. Loneliness is when your life partner/lover/best friend withdraws emotionally and treats you with scorn, rebuffing every attempt to reach out in any way.
Also, due to my personal religious beliefs, I wouldn’t feel right remarrying. There are some causes of divorce that I might consider mitigating circumstances (infidelity, abuse, etc.), but those aren’t applicable in this case. The denomination I was raised in probably wouldn’t have an issue with it, these are just my personal beliefs, for me. What others choose to do is up to them and their beliefs. If they choose to remarry after divorce, I wish them every happiness. I just know I would have issues doing it myself, in this particular case.
Anonymous
09/24/2021 18:33
Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
47 now, 42 at the divorce. Absolutely no reason to remarry. I have my own assets and don’t need to rely on a man for a good life. I do have a long term boyfriend but we don’t cohabitate and it’s actually the perfect situation. I do see and talk to him every day.
Anonymous
09/24/2021 17:18
Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
52, separate 5 years ago.
I have too much money.
Nobility is good enough.
Men need their egos stroked constantly. It’s pathetic. Thanks for taking out the trash. Thanks for bringing in the mail. Thanks for being a normal human…. 😳. I’d rather use that energy on my volunteering for people who actually need help.
Sex with men is way to much about their needs. I prefer taking care of my own needs and sleeping immediately instead of waiting for a sweaty body to finish.
I already have too much companionship in my life.
I have too much money.
Nobility is good enough.
Men need their egos stroked constantly. It’s pathetic. Thanks for taking out the trash. Thanks for bringing in the mail. Thanks for being a normal human…. 😳. I’d rather use that energy on my volunteering for people who actually need help.
Sex with men is way to much about their needs. I prefer taking care of my own needs and sleeping immediately instead of waiting for a sweaty body to finish.
I already have too much companionship in my life.
Anonymous
09/24/2021 17:05
Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:42. 37. Because most men are problematic, and I am not sexually attracted to women.
That’s a really long time to be alone. What do you do for sex and companionship?
I am not the PP you are responding to but the 10 years I was married I had almost no sex and no companionship. You don't need marriage to get that at all (I had it before marriage and after) and that was completely lacking in my marriage. You have a lot of assumptions about what it is like to be married or to be single.
Anonymous
09/24/2021 17:03
Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
I decided to divorce at 40. I was divorced at 42. I am 44. I was hesitant to marry in the first place (in my early 30s)...seemed too big of a risk. It was the biggest mistake of my life. Have no desire to ever, ever do it again. There is no point.
Anonymous
09/24/2021 16:41
Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
47 and never because I’m done having kids.
Anonymous
09/24/2021 16:29
Subject: Re:If you are divorced and will never remarry
46. Divorced at 42. Woman.
I wont marry again because divorcing an asshole now dictates where I live, it means that the rights I thought I had, as an American, are not the same as others, because I am divorced from a high conflict man. He will try to ruin any relationship I am in, I keep my love life very very private. I will never again have to pay my way out of a relationship, and to be held hostage by the whims of an insane person just because we share biological children.
I hope to have a live in partner, someday, after my kids leave home (7 years from now). But I've learned that marriage doesn't mean anything when one person has addiction issues, or mental illness, or ....whatever. It just ends, same as a relationship would, but with a hell of a lot more expense and hassle.
So far, I dont find men very impressive. The fact that my life is SO much easier as a primary parent to several kids is a testimony to how much of a help he was. He was like my 4th and 5th child. And maybe a dog too.
I wont marry again because divorcing an asshole now dictates where I live, it means that the rights I thought I had, as an American, are not the same as others, because I am divorced from a high conflict man. He will try to ruin any relationship I am in, I keep my love life very very private. I will never again have to pay my way out of a relationship, and to be held hostage by the whims of an insane person just because we share biological children.
I hope to have a live in partner, someday, after my kids leave home (7 years from now). But I've learned that marriage doesn't mean anything when one person has addiction issues, or mental illness, or ....whatever. It just ends, same as a relationship would, but with a hell of a lot more expense and hassle.
So far, I dont find men very impressive. The fact that my life is SO much easier as a primary parent to several kids is a testimony to how much of a help he was. He was like my 4th and 5th child. And maybe a dog too.
Anonymous
09/24/2021 16:28
Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
plus 1. If you’re in a plane and you’re about to go skydiving, and they told you half the parachutes won’t open, would you jump? Why people rush to get married is beyond meAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:42. 37. Because most men are problematic, and I am not sexually attracted to women.
That’s a really long time to be alone. What do you do for sex and companionship?
NP. You know you can get sex and companionship without being married, right?
Anonymous
09/24/2021 16:15
Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:42. 37. Because most men are problematic, and I am not sexually attracted to women.
That’s a really long time to be alone. What do you do for sex and companionship?
NP. You know you can get sex and companionship without being married, right?
Anonymous
09/24/2021 16:11
Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
Anonymous wrote:42. 37. Because most men are problematic, and I am not sexually attracted to women.
That’s a really long time to be alone. What do you do for sex and companionship?
Anonymous
09/24/2021 16:03
Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
42. 37. Because most men are problematic, and I am not sexually attracted to women.
Anonymous
09/24/2021 15:57
Subject: If you are divorced and will never remarry
How old are you? How old when you divorced? Why will you never remarry?