Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 09:13     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
Can your mom just sleep in your daughter's room when she visits (if it is an infrequent as you say)? And daughter can use an air mattress or something while your mom is there? Then you can make the guest room into whatever you want.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 09:04     Subject: Re:Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
Anonymous wrote:OP here: lord, I forgot how DCUM is. Thanks for those who gave practical solutions (and even the one who posted about this being a "luxury problem," such a good point.). For those who made wrong assumptions based on a design help post, it's interesting you don't have anything better to do than make people feel bad online behind a veil of anonymity. Of course I didn't give a whole lot of detail about my life situation - I'm just looking for practical suggestions and a comfortable sleep sofa! Of course I'm going to get my kid a comfortable bed, or move the comfortable bed into her room if she prefers that.


Look, I'm sorry I made you feel bad but your kid is sleeping in the guest room instead of her room. You want advise? Well here it is: Move the guest room bed to her room and move her bed to the guest room. Call bulk trash pick up and have them haul away the old bed in the next week or two. She should be able to sleep in her own room. Then over the next few weeks or months you can figure out what you want to do with the current guest room. I would not want my kid to feel like she has to sleep in the guest room.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:58     Subject: Re:Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
OP here: lord, I forgot how DCUM is. Thanks for those who gave practical solutions (and even the one who posted about this being a "luxury problem," such a good point.). For those who made wrong assumptions based on a design help post, it's interesting you don't have anything better to do than make people feel bad online behind a veil of anonymity. Of course I didn't give a whole lot of detail about my life situation - I'm just looking for practical suggestions and a comfortable sleep sofa! Of course I'm going to get my kid a comfortable bed, or move the comfortable bed into her room if she prefers that.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:45     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have a guest room that is rarely used by guests. My mother comes once or twice a year and has a bad back. We have a comfortable queen sized bed in there for her.

Our teenager's bed has reached it's last legs. It's an old bed and the mattress is sagging.

I don't want to spend $1K or more on a new bed for teenager's room, but she needs something comfortable because every night she's been sleeping in the guest room. She loves that bed.

Question is - I'm thinking of moving the guest room bed into the teen's room and making the guest room more functional (for Zoom calls, meditation, TV, etc.). I'm afraid if I get a sleep sofa though, my mother won't be able to sleep on it. Is there such a thing as a very comfortable sleep sofa or should I scrap the plan and just get my daughter a new bed?


OMG

Just buy your kid a new bed. What's wrong with you?


LOL!!!! Kid loves the guest room bed and is sleeping on that every night. She's Autistic. When she finds something she likes, she likes it. We thought this is a good opportunity to make the guest room more functional. What is wrong with ME?????


The point is to prioritize your child, who lives here 100% of the time. So nobody cares where she sleeps, as long as you're not confining her to a crappy bed just because (insert weird reason here).
You could transform the guest room into a study, and when your mother visits, have her sleep in a quality bed and you or your child sleep on the couch, or air mattress, or whatever. Or you could buy a new, comfortable bed (they are NEVER a waste of money!), and keep the guest room as a bedroom.

But the main point is not to deny your child a comfortable bed.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:45     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
What about a daybed with a pop-up trundle for the guest room? That way it takes up less space during non guest times but is still a real mattress and decently comfortable for your mom
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:45     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have a guest room that is rarely used by guests. My mother comes once or twice a year and has a bad back. We have a comfortable queen sized bed in there for her.

Our teenager's bed has reached it's last legs. It's an old bed and the mattress is sagging.

I don't want to spend $1K or more on a new bed for teenager's room, but she needs something comfortable because every night she's been sleeping in the guest room. She loves that bed.

Question is - I'm thinking of moving the guest room bed into the teen's room and making the guest room more functional (for Zoom calls, meditation, TV, etc.). I'm afraid if I get a sleep sofa though, my mother won't be able to sleep on it. Is there such a thing as a very comfortable sleep sofa or should I scrap the plan and just get my daughter a new bed?


OMG

Just buy your kid a new bed. What's wrong with you?


LOL!!!! Kid loves the guest room bed and is sleeping on that every night. She's Autistic. When she finds something she likes, she likes it. We thought this is a good opportunity to make the guest room more functional. What is wrong with ME?????


Yes, what's wrong with you? You specifically mentioned that you didn't want to spend money on replacing your kid's dilapidated bed so she's sleeping in the guest room. What's next, you don't want to spend $60 on a new pair of shoes so she can just wear the pair that's too small? You're not being frugal, you're being CHEAP. You're also being a bad parent by not replacing a worn out bed. If you want to give her the bed from the guest room and not spend money on a new bed then fine but then you need to work out what's going to happen when your mom comes to town. How about you sleep on the floor and your mom sleeps on your bed when she visits? Oh, I'm sure that's no good though! Your posts drip of self-righteousness and selfishness.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:45     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How long is your mother (or other guests) there? I am a big believer in making your house right for 80% of the time, so even if you have visitors 20% of the time I would prioritize for yourself. I just find it off when people feel like they have to keep one room open ALL THE TIME for someone but it's rarely used while they cram their lives into the "non guest" rooms. You can always move furniture around when your mother visits.

If it were me: I would totally give your kid the nice bed. Your mother could even use the teen's room as the guestroom and your kid could sleep on a sofa bed in the used-to-be guest room when you have visiitors.


Thanks. This is my thinking too. I'm just a little overwhelmed with the prospect of re-doing the whole guest room but it'll be great when it's done. I just want to find a sleep sofa that is comfortable for both upright TV watching/phone calls and sleeping. But it is true my mom and kid could switch rooms when she comes to visit. She only comes maybe twice a year for 3-4 days. We go to her more often than she comes to us.



You are welcome. And yes, I cannot imagine making my family's sleeping situation revolve around a 1 week/year exception. That seems really off balance to me when your fmaily is always there the rest of the year.

And side note: I completely get overwhelmed w this... I suffer from anxiety so I know how it is... and at the same time there is a bit of me that thinks, wow this lady has a lucky life hat this what overwhelms her (although I have had a year from hell and experienced things no one should ever x 5). Not trying to be snarky but in case the perspective helps.

Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:43     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!

Well, you neglected to mention the autism component in your original post.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:42     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
Give your kid the guest room bed. Make the guest room more "functional" as you'd like. When your mom comes to visit, kick teen out of her room for a few days and put her on an air mattress or sofabed in the guest room.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:41     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
Anonymous wrote:How long is your mother (or other guests) there? I am a big believer in making your house right for 80% of the time, so even if you have visitors 20% of the time I would prioritize for yourself. I just find it off when people feel like they have to keep one room open ALL THE TIME for someone but it's rarely used while they cram their lives into the "non guest" rooms. You can always move furniture around when your mother visits.

If it were me: I would totally give your kid the nice bed. Your mother could even use the teen's room as the guestroom and your kid could sleep on a sofa bed in the used-to-be guest room when you have visiitors.


Thanks. This is my thinking too. I'm just a little overwhelmed with the prospect of re-doing the whole guest room but it'll be great when it's done. I just want to find a sleep sofa that is comfortable for both upright TV watching/phone calls and sleeping. But it is true my mom and kid could switch rooms when she comes to visit. She only comes maybe twice a year for 3-4 days. We go to her more often than she comes to us.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:41     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
Anonymous wrote:We have a guest room that is rarely used by guests. My mother comes once or twice a year and has a bad back. We have a comfortable queen sized bed in there for her.

Our teenager's bed has reached it's last legs. It's an old bed and the mattress is sagging.

I don't want to spend $1K or more on a new bed for teenager's room, but she needs something comfortable because every night she's been sleeping in the guest room. She loves that bed.

Question is - I'm thinking of moving the guest room bed into the teen's room and making the guest room more functional (for Zoom calls, meditation, TV, etc.). I'm afraid if I get a sleep sofa though, my mother won't be able to sleep on it. Is there such a thing as a very comfortable sleep sofa or should I scrap the plan and just get my daughter a new bed?


Ask your daughter her preference.
Maybe it's ther matress that she likes sleeping on, but she'd prefer a new canopy bed frame (and for what it's worth, Wayfair has some amazing canopy beds for under $500, and they have great mattresses too)

If your daughter's bed is super old, let her pick out a new bed (sans matress) that she loves, then move the matress into her room.

Done.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:39     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have a guest room that is rarely used by guests. My mother comes once or twice a year and has a bad back. We have a comfortable queen sized bed in there for her.

Our teenager's bed has reached it's last legs. It's an old bed and the mattress is sagging.

I don't want to spend $1K or more on a new bed for teenager's room, but she needs something comfortable because every night she's been sleeping in the guest room. She loves that bed.

Question is - I'm thinking of moving the guest room bed into the teen's room and making the guest room more functional (for Zoom calls, meditation, TV, etc.). I'm afraid if I get a sleep sofa though, my mother won't be able to sleep on it. Is there such a thing as a very comfortable sleep sofa or should I scrap the plan and just get my daughter a new bed?


OMG

Just buy your kid a new bed. What's wrong with you?


LOL!!!! Kid loves the guest room bed and is sleeping on that every night. She's Autistic. When she finds something she likes, she likes it. We thought this is a good opportunity to make the guest room more functional. What is wrong with ME?????
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:38     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
How long is your mother (or other guests) there? I am a big believer in making your house right for 80% of the time, so even if you have visitors 20% of the time I would prioritize for yourself. I just find it off when people feel like they have to keep one room open ALL THE TIME for someone but it's rarely used while they cram their lives into the "non guest" rooms. You can always move furniture around when your mother visits.

If it were me: I would totally give your kid the nice bed. Your mother could even use the teen's room as the guestroom and your kid could sleep on a sofa bed in the used-to-be guest room when you have visiitors.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:35     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
Anonymous wrote:We have a guest room that is rarely used by guests. My mother comes once or twice a year and has a bad back. We have a comfortable queen sized bed in there for her.

Our teenager's bed has reached it's last legs. It's an old bed and the mattress is sagging.

I don't want to spend $1K or more on a new bed for teenager's room, but she needs something comfortable because every night she's been sleeping in the guest room. She loves that bed.

Question is - I'm thinking of moving the guest room bed into the teen's room and making the guest room more functional (for Zoom calls, meditation, TV, etc.). I'm afraid if I get a sleep sofa though, my mother won't be able to sleep on it. Is there such a thing as a very comfortable sleep sofa or should I scrap the plan and just get my daughter a new bed?


OMG

Just buy your kid a new bed. What's wrong with you?
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2021 08:29     Subject: Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!
We have a guest room that is rarely used by guests. My mother comes once or twice a year and has a bad back. We have a comfortable queen sized bed in there for her.

Our teenager's bed has reached it's last legs. It's an old bed and the mattress is sagging.

I don't want to spend $1K or more on a new bed for teenager's room, but she needs something comfortable because every night she's been sleeping in the guest room. She loves that bed.

Question is - I'm thinking of moving the guest room bed into the teen's room and making the guest room more functional (for Zoom calls, meditation, TV, etc.). I'm afraid if I get a sleep sofa though, my mother won't be able to sleep on it. Is there such a thing as a very comfortable sleep sofa or should I scrap the plan and just get my daughter a new bed?