Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 21:13     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:More than 15 years later after I divorced him and his second wife divorced him, my XH is still in love with this woman he knew at 17. She never left her H despite promising she would. Even after her child turned 18. I don’t think they ever have slept together. She’s just everything he ever wanted and all things good and perfect I suppose so why sully that with some extramarital intercourse. However, I think she is much, more smarter than me or XW #2. Both of us thought he was over her and clearly she has a magic formula she’s mastered.


Is this the reason you both divorced him? That is quite a story.


No, I stupidly forgave him after finding out. I reasoned that it was never physical. Dumb thinking. We divorced for other reasons. XW #2 says it was a combination of the emotional affair and the same reasons I divorced him.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 21:11     Subject: Re:Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Are you the guy whose wife is in love with a woman who may be using the wife to get citizenship? I didn't read the whole other thread. What if the two of you agree to separate for a bit? Can you agree on terms for the kids during a seperation?

I get that you don't want to divorce. Maybe with a separation, the thing can run its course. I would be afraid that it ends in disaster for your wife, and you don't want your kids around that.

Are you getting therapy and lawyer advice?
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 21:08     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Anonymous wrote:Did you stay in the marriage? Did you leave? When did the affair end (or did it not)?


Is your spouse male or female, OP?
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 20:58     Subject: Re:Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Limerence? It’s a brief and passing crush and if you don’t act on it no problem.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 20:42     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Anonymous wrote:More than 15 years later after I divorced him and his second wife divorced him, my XH is still in love with this woman he knew at 17. She never left her H despite promising she would. Even after her child turned 18. I don’t think they ever have slept together. She’s just everything he ever wanted and all things good and perfect I suppose so why sully that with some extramarital intercourse. However, I think she is much, more smarter than me or XW #2. Both of us thought he was over her and clearly she has a magic formula she’s mastered.


Is this the reason you both divorced him? That is quite a story.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 20:40     Subject: Re:Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Anonymous wrote:Stayed in the marriage but her limerence is still apparent.


Did he/she stay in the affair also?
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 20:20     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Tell me about how you started an affair because your spouse was driving you nuts using big words you always had to look up.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 20:19     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Limerent no clue what this means.


+1


LMGTFY https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 20:18     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
More than 15 years later after I divorced him and his second wife divorced him, my XH is still in love with this woman he knew at 17. She never left her H despite promising she would. Even after her child turned 18. I don’t think they ever have slept together. She’s just everything he ever wanted and all things good and perfect I suppose so why sully that with some extramarital intercourse. However, I think she is much, more smarter than me or XW #2. Both of us thought he was over her and clearly she has a magic formula she’s mastered.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 20:03     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
I left. The other woman left shortly after.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 19:50     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Anonymous wrote:Limerent no clue what this means.


+1

Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 19:48     Subject: Re:Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Stayed in the marriage but her limerence is still apparent.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 19:48     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
OP, your wife is done. Get the divorce it sucks, but that's the truth. I know it's easier for you to think she's simply being tricked, but it's just as likely even more likely that she's in love with this new woman. Get a divorce, get therapy and move on. Dragging it out isn't helpful to you or your kids.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 19:39     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Limerent no clue what this means.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2021 19:28     Subject: Tell me about your spouse’s limerent affair…
Did you stay in the marriage? Did you leave? When did the affair end (or did it not)?