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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm opposed to the way Indians come over here and then basically refuse to have anything to do with Americans. They live in the same neighborhoods (and God help you if you accidentally end up in one; my friend lives in one and has actually had the police called on her because she let her dogs into her yard) and refuse to associate with the Americans. Why?? I actually moved because the school my daughter was zoned for was 77% Indian and I feared she'd be ostracized and excluded for not being Indian. I like diversity, meaning nobody in the school, white, Indian, or otherwise, makes up 75% of the population, so she's zoned now for a much more diverse school. But I admit I wouldn't have had as much of a problem had the 75% not been Indian, because I think other groups would have been much more inclusive even if they were the majority. Indians just want to have their neighborhood and school and social circle be India in America and I don't get it. [/quote]

I'm Indian and I married an American. In fact, a lot of us do. We also have American friends, we speak English, we work and pay taxes. I cannot believe this is an actual concern.

I also refuse to believe that ANY school in this area would be 77% Indian. I'm thinking you might be from Edison, nj and if that's the case you are talking about a pocket of Indians that most of us can't stand. If you go to any other part of America, you will find assimilated Indians who are inclusive and are doing a great job at embracing both cultures.[/quote]

Agree with both PPs. I'm Indian-Am -- born and raised here -- and I definitely think that most Indians who come over to the U.S. whether the generation that came in the 70s or the computer professional generation coming now really do not want to mix and mingle with Americans. Some will tell you that they came over here to make money and have no interest in anything "American" -- they have no interest in watching a baseball game or eating apple pie because in their own mind that takes away from watching cricket and eating gulab jamun; they will tell you they are smarter and better educated than Americans etc. As someone who was born and raised here but of Indian origin, I find it offensive because my view is that if it's so terrible then why not make your money for 5 years and go back -- what is keeping  you here for a lifetime complaining about how bad it is. Personally I think these people are scared to death that if they/their kids assimilate, they will be "less" Indian -- so they go overboard to prove how America cannot and will not change them. I find it weird that you could move here and be SO obsessed with your roots that you have to shop at the Indian grocery stores for absolutely everything, including the same brand of cookies you used to eat in India; I don't think eating chocolate chip cookies like the rest of the population will make your kids "too American."

No matter how hard these parents try, their kids do assimilate so if you get those born-and-raised in Am. kids as your neighbors, you'll find the experience to be different' most of them went to high school and college here, probably like the same sports/music you do, may be dating the same kinds of people you do etc. I have Indian friends but more Am. friends; I gravitate more towards issues important/relevant in Am. and have no idea or interest about Indian news or politics, despite my parents 24-7 watching of Indian TV in their home. And while I'm an anomaly, I couldn't sit through a bollywood movie if you paid me. That doesn't mean that I don't like getting dressed up for an indian wedding once in a while or having good home cooked indian food every so often, but it doesn't define me the way it defines the first generation that chooses to believe that the only good thing about America is the U.S. dollar.[/quote]

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