Reply to Are you offended when someone says they “didnt want someone else to raise my kids”?

Forum Index » General Parenting Discussion

Reply to "Are you offended when someone says they “didnt want someone else to raise my kids”?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]

I'm confused.

You: I don't work so I can raise my kids
Me: So your husband doesn't raise your kids
You: Of course he does, I do all the chores so he can spend every moment with his kids
Me: So you spend lots of your day doing chores not with your kids
You: No ... hmmm
Me: So your H is gone 40 hours a week but he raises his kids but moms who work don't unless they are your husband.
You: Why are you twisting my words.

It's not me twisting your words it's you twisting logic.

My H is with my infant from wake up to 9am... 
nanny at 9-11 (nap time) 
Nanny 11-1 (2 hours)
nanny 1-3 (nap time)
Me home at 3:30

But you are raising your kids and I'm not because my nanny is with my infant for 2 waking hours?

It's great that you want to cook and clean and run errands and fit some "raising of your children" inbetween the cracks, that's great.

But your logic that you had to fully quit a job to do that is illogical.
If you said, I just didn't want to work i'd rather be in my home while my kids are napping, i'd rather not have my H ve involved so much that he cooks meals and feeds the baby and does doctors appointment because I want to do that... great... that's all good, I support your decision.

But my H wants to do volunteering at school and feeding the baby and doctors appointment and sick days and all the stuff.

But your logic that you and your H is  are fully raising your infant/children and I'm not because my H is fully engaged in morning routine and a nanny cares for the infant 2 hours of waking time ... it's just not logical. [/quote]

I can tell you why you’re confused.  It’s because you don’t understand how anonymous internet message boards work.  You don’t understand how a 60+ page thread can have side-topics.

See, I never said I quit work to raise my kids.  I also never said that I HAD to quit my job to do chores.  I’m also not the OP of this massive thread.  I was merely pushing back against the idea posited at some point many pages ago that in order to have a SAHM a dad obviously must not see his kids as much as he would if mom was also working.  Because that’s just a stupid assumption.

Hopefully this helps you read more carefully in the future! [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics