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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A tell all about the supposed horrors of purity culture would have been interesting and fresh about 15 years ago.

But a 50 year old woman writing about it in 2024-2025?

If Jen was so scarred by purity culture is she going to put her own beloved father/pastor on blast or will he somehow totally get a pass?[/quote]

Exactly! Wasn't her father her pastor? And apparently he can do no wrong? And neither can her mother, who I imagine had a lot to do with how sex was presented to her. How does she reconcile the two? I also have an evangelical background (from one of the largest megachurches in the nation, but not Baptist). I'm almost two years older than Jen but "purity culture" wasn't really a thing. We mostly just talked about saving sex for marriage. There was a little bit about dressing modestly (girls AND boys), acting modestly, and not living in sin. But it wasn't constantly drummed in our heads. And nothing about it made me feel shame about my body. I probably could have used more information about sex, but I wasn't taught that it made me dirty. My parents (mostly mom) supplemented that by telling me that there is nothing to be ashamed about by sex itself and it's great when shared between two loving, married, people. And that if I ever did get pregnant while unmarried, to please come to them and not hide. Just because SHE had a bad experience doesn't mean all evangelicals did.

And hasn't this topic been rehashed by many other authors? [/quote]

Same. I’m 50 and grew up going to a megachurch in the south (southern Baptist) from age 7 until college. I never want to discount others’ experiences but I never once experienced purity trauma shame. Heck, I’m still friends with those kids I was in youth group with and no one seems scarred by our church experiences or from purity culture. Agree that just because she had a bad experience doesn’t mean that all evangelicals did. The church isn’t perfect but I’m grateful for the friendships I made and for having a safe place to go and hang out when I was young. [/quote]

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