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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not offended by anything a woman who doesn’t work says to be honest. I subconsciously trust the judgment of my friends who are doctors/software engineers (yes these are all women) over the opinions of my SAHM friends. I’m not proud of this and would never admit it to anyone but it’s the truth.[/quote]

I know, right?  It’s like, when my retired professor parents try to give me advice, or even just their opinions on some current event, I’m like teehee, you don’t even wOrK fOr PaY anymore!!  What could you possibly have to offer?!

(Also, just FYI, the fact that you are able to state in no uncertain terms that your trust the judgement of your working friends more means that it is not actually subconscious.)[/quote]

By subconscious I meant that my mind goes there unbidden, but I guess you’re right. I was raised by a SAHM who instilled so much drive in myself and my sister and she is so proud that we are working moms. What she doesn’t know is that years of intellectually stimulating work made me judgmental of anyone who isn’t a knowledge worker. Your retired professor parents have decades on knowledge work under their belt so not a good comparison.

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So you’re also judgmental of your own mother?

Also, you have no idea how many years of knowledge work a retired professor has versus how many years of knowledge work a SAHM has.  (e.g. you don’t know age at retirement, you don’t know how long they were professors before retirement, etc.)

I worked as an engineer for almost two decades before staying home.  If I’m an idiot now as a SAHM, I was an idiot before when I was doing complex work and making critical decisions for my company and clients.  (Because I still have the same brain and overall capabilities.)  But you would have valued my opinion when I was working simply because I was receiving a paycheck.

I’m curious what kind of knowledge work you do, because I believe your bias against those who are not “knowledge workers” could be picked apart in week one of an introductory logic course.[/quote]

My sister and I have a more complex perspective than our mother, and it’s something we always tease her about. Like I said, she is so proud of us (more so my sister because she is a cancer researcher!) that being offended over that isn’t something that would cross her mind.

You judge me for my bias against knowledge workers, but you were one yourself, you married one (I’m sure you definitely didn’t marry a construction worker) and you are probably doing everything in your power to help your children excel at school. I will not disclose my area of expertise but it’s fascinating, at least to me, and requires a lot of thinking that has me constantly reevaluating other areas of my life as well. [/quote]

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