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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anger[/quote]

You think people cheat out of anger? Why? Do they realize this? A lot of them want to stay in marriages.[/quote]

I had an (emotional) affair with a man who seemed *deeply* angry with his wife.  Of course everything he told me could have been a lie, but he seemed to blame the supposed sexlessness and lack of emotional intimacy in their marriage all on her.  This wasn’t very attractive to me and thankfully contributed to the demise of our flirtation.[/quote]

It's acting out. Plain and simple. Mommy issues.  [/quote]

A lot of these guys didn't get the attention as children...just like the women with daddy issues.[/quote]

Mind blown. This connects some things over the 10 years I have been involved with a MM. No I’m not blaming him. Yes I am half to blame. So much of what attracted me to him was whatever wound I wanted to fix for him. And how he relied on me. I relied on him to make me feel worthy and needed. Unhealthy and immature for sure. Not so different than any other romance though. Who’s to say a hundred single people don’t fall for each other under the same irrational and unhealthy pretexts. That we are both married makes it all fake and wrong in the eyes of those who judge.

Everyone one has something they deal with, or fight to overcome. Even people who say they don’t. No one is perfect. Others just deal with it more maturely than escapism and cheating.

I get it. I’m a POS. Go ahead and flame me.

Obviously I’m working though some things. [/quote]

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