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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This story is so sad. I feel like girls especially have it drilled in their head to look out for their friends and yet this sort of thing happens. I wonder if she had known the boy for a few days so had an illusion of safety and so did her friends.   [/quote]

I really don't like blaming the friends. She clearly wanted to stay behind with him. It was after 5am and the friends wanted to go to bed at last. If she didn't want to go with them, please tell me specifically what they should have done.[/quote]

[b]My understanding is they took her phone so find my phone would show her in the hotel room. They were doing what she wanted.[/b] [/quote]

Is this understanding from anything official or simply the game of telephone (pun intended) being played in this thread? [/quote]

Nothing official. More likely she didn't want her phone to get wet or sandy, or it was dying.[/quote]

Right. We just know she asked her friends to take it, several possible reasons why.[/quote]
Im new to the phone theories. I assumed it was on the beach chair. So the girls have it? That’s unfortunate if true. [/quote]

If you have an older teenage child, you might be aware that they DO NOT like being tracked by their parents. Some have no choice, the parents are controlling. If the parents are not, some kids usually elect to turn off location sharing because, surprise, they like privacy. In this case, if there is controlling parent and she wanted to fool them into thinking she was with her friends whose parents might be in contact with her parents, she gives friends the phone to throw them off the trail of her hormonal intentions.

Haven't you seen posts from mid-life adults who's 80 year old mother will call because middle aged child was at a doctor's office 3000 miles away and pesters about middle aged child's reasons for being at doctor's office?[/quote]

This. She could turn off location, but then the tiger mom would start calling her friends in panic mode. She had [b]no other option [/b]than send the phone with friends to send them off track. How sad. The [b]phone[/b] perhaps would have [b]saved her[/b], we will never know. This is something young women should always do, have a friend check back on her every hour to see if she's good and if they don't hear back then time to get alert.

Overly controlling parents think their 20 year old daughter should not have some "fun" with a guy she liked. It's quite normal and she should be allowed to have safe fun. The phone is something she should not leave ever. I know young women who will go crazy if their phone reaches a certain level of charge and they will go out of the way to get it charged. I also know overly controlling parents who will enforce a curfew on their daughter at home when she is actually hooking up with random guys in college. Such parents think their daughter is a "good girl" or should be one. There is nothing that will make her a bad girl if she had some safe fun, they should be allowed to do that without overbearing parents tracking them every where.

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Didn't reports say there was a power outage at that resort? So she likely didn't get a chance to charge her phone there. Could she have thought power may come back on so better to get the phone inside with her friends to get it charged in her room? No one knows (well maybe the friends do) if she was trying to throw parents off track.

Wow some posters thinking parents were overbearing possibly in this case. Share how you know this? Do you know them or has this been reported and the source of reports. [/quote]

How do I know this? patterns. Observed many parents who do this, especially among Indian and Asian communities. Some even try this with their boys, but of course the boys grab their freedom at that age and refuse to comply with phone tracking or even social media tracking by parents. Girls on the other hand comply, but try to do it in a sneaky way because they don't want to offend anyone while at same time they have to get their freedoms too just like everyone around them.[/quote]

Good for you and patterns. It happens among all backgrounds of parents. But how do you know about this set of parents? That they were overbearing or not?[/quote]

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