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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can be single, never married, and happy.[/quote]

[b]I think this becomes less true the older a person gets[/b].  Maybe some people can be happy being single their whole lives, but I think by the time you hit your late 40's/early 50's, you get lonely.  Most people by that age have settled down with someone and/or had kids and you end up being the "extra" person at holiday get-togethers.  Your parents may have died and your siblings have their own lives and families.  Your friends are busy/tied down/too tired to make plans.  You are getting set in your ways.  Let's face it, by middle age, you are probably not having a huge social life.  You are not hitting the town every weekend or going on a big hiking or skiing trip. You are probably just hanging out at home with your pets.  
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Actually, it becomes more true the older one gets. I am single, never married, and very happy. I am in my early 50s. Many of my married contemporaries are unhappy, stressed out, financially strapped, and/or getting divorced. Maybe 10 or 15 years ago, those women were the smug marrieds of which you speak, but ten to fifteen years of marriage, children and career (or loss of it) have changed their perspectives. They all look 5 to 10 years older than me.
Now, I did adopt a child on my own, and I am an outgoing person who has always had an active social life. So, YMMV.[/quote]I totally believe this.  I'm married and in a pretty good relationship but as I move into my 60s, I know I would be fine if something happened to dh and I would have absolutely no need to be in another relationship.  I mean -- your libido slows down, you've accomplished a fair bit so you have some confidence, you care a lot less about what other people think (especially about your looks) and you aren't riding that overwhelming emotional rollercoaster that you rode in your 20s and 30s. I just don't think you need a relationship as much when you get older.  But, of course, one might say that that's easy for me to say, since I have one.[/quote]

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