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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for everyone commenting, the conclusion that marrying in your 20s is superior but it's hard to find a good partner. [/quote]

It’s widely covered in media that dating as adults is MUCH harder than it used to be, and that dating apps are almost corrosive in the effort to get married.

If you want a serious partner, Princeton mom was right: college is the time to find that life mate. There will be no other time when you can date with less risk (like dating your coworker or neighbor), and high quality curated partners. Maybe grad school is a bit better but GenZ got the memo — settle down in college or look for a decade or more in the dating desert. [/quote]

+1[/quote]

I disagree. It’s true there are a lot of single prospects at college, but there’s some risk to marrying someone at that age. Most people don’t know who they are at that age or what they want. Plenty of men end up with alcohol problems that looks like regular college age drinking at the time. If you end up divorced you have baggage and then are later judged for a failed marriage.  If you’re a confident, smart woman you don’t need to settle down at that age over the fear you might not find someone.

But I’m a happily married woman who could also be happy single. I have a great career and hobbies.  I don’t need marriage and kids to be happy. If it’s your end all he all then yes make sure to have a ring on your finger when you graduate undergrad. 
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The thing is I knew women who were super focused on trying to find a husband in college and in many cases I think it backfired a bit.

I met my now husband in college but part of what made our relationship work is we were both super focused on our goals.  So a lot of time we spent together was literally just studying.  We supported each other through our respective grad schools.  He quizzed me for the bar, I proofread his thesis.

Never sacrifice your own identity for a relationship.  [/quote]

I didn’t know anyone “super focused” on finding a husband in college.

Some people met their future spouse but no one was on the hunt.

Weird. 
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Agreed. By default college age young people date each other and many of those dates lead to relationships, out of which some last and others don't. If they were young farmers picking apples together, at that age outcomes would be the same. [/quote]

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