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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not insist my child go to the party, BUT I would not let her get away with the "lame"excuse. She would either accompany me to the retirement home to visit old people or spend the day in church.  I would know the mean girl attitude out of her.[/quote]

I tried something like that once for a similar attitude issue and my DD, then age 9, sat silently in a chair in the corner the entire time and engaged with only 1-2 word answers when I or the person we were visiting tried to draw her into conversation. She didn't want to be there and it was obvious. When we went home (we left early because I had to apologize for her embarrassingly rude behavior) I sent her directly to her room for the rest of the day and said she could only be around people if she could be pleasant and not have a sulky attitude. The silent treatment she gave the entire family lasted for nearly a week despite escalating loss of privileges, and ultimately the forced visit/attempt at volunteerism did no good as a teaching moment and was only awkward for the people we visited because it is obvious when someone does not want to be somewhere and in the end you can't force anyone to engage with others socially. I would not use visiting or socializing with others as a punishment or lesson for an unwilling child because the other people do not deserve to be subjected to that. [/quote]

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